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age
41-50,
*monty78
writes:So, my girlfriend left me back in January. We talked here and there for about 5 weeks afterwards. It was killing me inside that we were no longer together and talking at her convenience so I gave her a letter saying I had to walk away from the situation because it was killing me inside, hoping to draw her back in. We didn't speak for 3 weeks and she deleted me from her myspace in that period of time. Maybe she wanted a reaction? I didn't give her one, I acted like I didn't even know. I talked to her best friends husband a few days later and didn't mention her name at all, knowing it would get back to her. Instead I told him how well I was doing, my business was doing well, and made sure to mention that I just special ordered an 09 Jaguar XF, and life was well.The next day she calls leaving a voicemail to meet with me in a week to pick up the rest of her things. I never responded, and she texted me and called me again that night. I sent her a text the next day saying my schedule was busy but we could meet the week after next. She texted me again today telling me she couldn't meet me this week, and wanted to know if next week was ok. I JUST told her last week that I couldn't meet her this week. Is it possible she is making excuses to contact me now. The stuff she wants back I am willing to give her because its hers, however its stuff she never uses, nor does she need immediately. Just curious on some other peoples views, especially females. And.....when I do see her next week, do I act like I have moved on, or do I let her know that after 2 months, I think about her every day and that I still love her and want to make it work?
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (12 March 2009):
 Be honest with your feelings. Dont make a point of telling her. Only tell her if she cares, if she asks, or gives you a slight hint that she wants you back. Just her picking up her stuff is not a sign that she wants you back.
Assume she doesnt want you back because hey, you deserve someone who is mature enough that if they DID want you back, they would be a grown-up and TELL you right? Is it ok for her to play control games with you in order to elicit some desperate attempt by you to win her back? YOU are a prize as well, and relationships should be mutual. If she wants you back, let her tell you. Otherwise, assume she is too immature to talk about her feelings, and move on to someone who can communicate with you on a deeper level.
I know it hurts, but a good relationship involves two way communication.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): Tell her.
If you do, she will come back if she wanted to. If not, nothing will change.
If you don't, chances are that she won't come back even if she wants to, thinking that you are no longer interested.
Unless she has a huge ego and like to play the power game, your safe bet is to tell her. Don't beg, just tell her what you are thinking.
Good luck!
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