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writes:I am a female massage therapist working with a male professional sports team. Players are always flirting with me and recently a married player made sexual advances toward me on a road trip, and I am afraid he will want to have sex next time we are alone together. I want to keep things professional and be valued for my work, maintain friendly conversations during treatments, and help the team without being perceived as a potential conquest. At the same time I am afraid that if I reject the player he will make sure that I am not asked back to work with the team. The opportunity to work at the pro level is currently the highlight of my career and I don't want to lose it, even though my values and ethics are being compromised.Any advice??
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 What this player is doing is the same as extorsion. He knows that being the massage therapist for a team is a big advancement in your career, so he knows you wouldn't want to lose that. He tells you to sleep with him, and doesn't finish the phrase to avoid get caught.
Maybe you can document what he has done. Maybe not. And, because life is unfair, you might just never be called again, even though you're right in complaining about him. The world is a nasty place sometimes. Some people can say that you slept with him voluntarily, and now you want to extort him. Some other people would say that you're right in complaining but they don't want that sort of problems in the team, so you'd never be called again anyways. And then, sorry, you don't know if this has been going on for long, and this is "the price" to pay for those services.
But I guess that the most important things are these two: one, your own worth. You're not a piece of meat. And second, your professional worth. You're obviously a good massage therapist; you want people to know you for that. If word comes out that you slept with someone, people won't stop to think how good a massage therapist you are; they will say you're good because of the "other" things.
Stay true to yourself and don't give in.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 Do not cave in to this guy. Document his advances and let someone know about it. Why should you pay a price for not giving in to him. Once you give in to him your reputation will be ruined and you will not be known for your massages anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): Hi Hunny
Just dont take any shit, So he thinks because he is a big shot (NO PUN INTENDED)That he can sleep with whomever he chooses, BLAA!!!! You have a b/f simple as that, and the answer is NO!!! and if it were me and he tryed to pressure me Id make sure someone that was trustworthy was presant with me when the next massage took place or at least talk to someone hunny...Your a masseuse who has worked hard to get where you are not a hooker hunny..ooooh Id be fuming Id massage him alright his wife would want to no why his dick had got so strangly shaped!!!!!!!!!Find a friend to talk to anyone hunny...TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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