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writes: Oh man, what have I done? Someone please knock some sense into my head! I am a married woman, my husband is away at the moment, and my hormones are getting the better of me. I met a guy online who knows I am married. At first he was cool and was asking if I had any single friends and stuff, but he started to like me more. He was saying that he wanted me to come over and have sex with him (he lives only a couple miles from me), and that he could keep a secret. I was chatting with him on the phone and my hormones really started going a little crazy with my husband being away and I said some things (some sexual things) that I know I should only say to my husband! I feel like such an idiot now. I know he only wants one thing, especially since he knows I am married and don't want to leave my husband. Why am I so stupid? I think he's a nice guy and I like chatting with him, but the conversation always turns sexual! The more I type this, the more I know what I have to do. I really just need some back-up and support and some good ideas for getting me out of the way of this sex pervert! He knows the neighborhood I live in, where I work, what I look like.. I'm afraid of running into him sometime. I am so stupid. Please help! Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): enjoy yourself with the person like us
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlright, lay worries to rest. I went on my MSN to see if I was still able to do that after deleting my email (which I was), and this guy was online and started talking to me. I told him that we shouldn't talk anymore because it's not right. He was fine and just said he understood and to get in touch with him if I was ever single again. So, it doesn't sound like he's going to go psycho-stalker and come find me or anything. It seems that this matter is taken care of! Thanks again to those who answered!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone who answered. I really appreciate it. I know I got myself into this mess, which is why I came on here for help. I deleted the entire email account I used to contact him. Hopefully he won't think anything of my disappearance. I don't think he was that crazy about me, so hopefully he won't try to find me or contact me. I should've stopped contacting him long ago. I don't know what I was thinking. Hopefully I'll never hear from him again. Again, thank you all so much for your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): You say "he's a nice guy". Then you say he's a "sex pervert!"
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It looks like you have been leading him on.
Handle this badly and he may contact your husband anyway out of feelings of rejection. How sure are you that he wasn't recording the conversation?
Seems like you've come to your senses.
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reader, 911help  +, writes (1 September 2007):
 If your husband is away alot I agree you need to invest in a sex toy. If you get to talk to your husband while he is gone, why do you try having phone sex with him. I take it you have no children because we teach our children not to give imformation about yourself out on the computer, such as location, phone number, where they go to school / work. Everyone makes mistakes, but I hope you learned from this one. Be careful and watch being alone. If you have been talking to him sexually, he might think you want more and I wouldn't want you to be sexually assaulted or raped. Try avoiding him and see how he takes it or just come right out and tell him you don't want to do this anymore. Good Luck and PLEASE BE CAREFUL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): Hi Love,
YOU HAVE DONE THE RIGHT THING NOW!!!!!! whoooo! what a problem, Its to easy these days to get in a mess like this you dont even think untill its to late, BUT YOU HAVE! JUST......
Dont have anything more to do with him AT ALL!!!! As you said he is after one thing...Im going to be blunt love, That one thing is preying on unhappy lonely women who he can mould into having sex....
Im sorry if that sounded cruel, I dont want to hurt you I just want to help before you get into a situation that runs really out of control, It sounds as if to much has been said already as you said he knows your neighborhood, your place of work and what you look like.
You dont say what youve already said, Apart from some sexual things... It would be more helpfull so that maybe I could help you out a little more, you obviously no you have made a huge mistake and are worried sick, Its no good me going into the imagine it was your husband routine as I no you no what you've done, Plus the fact that you have written this question is brave as you probably expect negative answers, We all make mistakes love and hopefully we learn from them so I dont judge...
If you want to chat message me and ill be happy to help hun, TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, duce00 +, writes (1 September 2007):
 You arnt stupid...YET!
Its good that you jumped on here to get some outsiders advice before you really lose your marbles and "do the deed". Being alone is getting the better of you right now but try being your own best friend instead of looking elsewhere when you get horny and lonely. Do things that you enjoy. Hang out with good friends who will be a healthy influence. Shoot! if you havnt allready got a vibrator go get yourself one!
In addition to all that, flip roles and imagine how you would feel if it was your husband playing around with a stranger like this? Hopefully that stung a bit. Wouldnt you rather him do somthing like I suggested for you? What else would you add to keep him from straying? Aside from a sharp blow to the head I mean!
Its good that you have had a guilty consience. Hopefully that is the most harm you will cause or suffer. Do the right thing, I know you want to!
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