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writes:hi, well its a long story. Last year, met this girl, fell in love. eventually found out she was two timing me, and she left me, went back to her country, holland. But then her best mate (on msn) showed up, was there for me everyday to talk to, and we became good mates. My mate tho told her i was like number 1 at tennis in the world (in the junior category) by hacking into my msn and telling her that. so she thought the whole time i was, and one day, she told me she had feelings for me. I believed that partially the reason was she was impressed about my tennis. Eventually, I went to holland to meet her, and I fell in love with her, but then her parents came suspicious that i was a liar (i was) but i cudnt get myself to tell her that they were right, and i was wrong... So, they had loads of fights over me, and my gf protected me loads, and i never told her.Last Friday, I told her that i wasnt hu i thought she was, and as u can imagine, she was livid, and even now is struggling to find her true feelings for me. she loves me, she says, but she wants to hate me. Her parents hate me cos i lied to them basically from the first day i met them, and i understand this, but now she is thinking of ending it with me, and i definitely do not want that! i love her too much to lose her, but her dad says i cant see her for at least 2/3 months...Should i encourage my gf to leave me? she is confused atm, and so am i. we love eachother so much, but i think that i may have rele blown it... i love her tho, and wud do ANYTHING to keep us going...Please reply asap, cos i am in need of any help or advice.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (30 March 2009):
 Even if she does decide to forgive you.. her parents probably won't ever.. and you're going to need their blessing if you decide you want to marry her. And she'll probably never completely trust you again. Can you live with that? A relationship that starts off on a lie will never make it
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reader, shygal +, writes (30 March 2009):
Hey,i cant say i no how you feel because hav not been thru it.however i do understand how she feels, i was lied to for 3 years as my ex told me he was in the navy and i found out that was a lie. now i think you know u should of told her the truth staight away however thats the past now cant change it.If i was you i wouldnt try n convice her to leave or even to stay with you, you need to let her think about what she wants. but you do need to let her know that you only kept the lie up because you didnt want to lose her because you love her very much and that if you could change it than you would but since you cant you are just askin her to forgive you and you will give her as long as she needs to learn to trust you again.if it was ment to be it will wrk out in the endhope i helped xx
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