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36-40,
*hweta
writes:Hi,This may sound weird. I am going around with this guy for past 3 years. I met him online. Everythign was fine till 1.5 years back i met a guy in my office. We were gud friends and fond of each other, but my bf thought we both were too close and started behaving really possesive. Maybe he was rgt..cause 6 mnths back the other guy proposed to me and i think m attracted to him n lov ehim.My problm is now wen i talk bout break up to my bf..he gets really upset. starts crying and says he might commit suicide...m really scared cause i dont want to hurt him...Please help me i dont know wat to do :( Reply to this Question
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reader, Shweta_345 +, writes (21 October 2009):
Hi,
I am the original writer of this post.. I am really really really sad that i troubled my boyfriend of 3 years over this stupid guy.
I am glad i hav someone like my bf who forgave me for this mistake and is marrying me irrespective of this...I love him and will always love him
If u find someone who really loves u a lot, do not let any short term happiness ruin it for u :)
Love u honeybun
Shweta
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reader, prof_orr  +, writes (15 October 2008):
 "he says he might commit suicide!"
That also means that he might NOT commit suicide.
Tell him to get off the guilt trip routine.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 When someone tries to control you be threatening suicide, it can be a sign of abuse. Take a look at this list and see if your boyfriend has any other traits of a controlling personality.
http://www.familyshelterservice.org/assess.htm
Good Luck sorting out your feelings and take care.
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reader, Shweta +, writes (14 October 2008):
Shweta is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much guillaume and Fade and also anonymous for your replies. Fade yes he is giving most of those signs...plus he already knows bout this guy asking me out ...propose here means dating...wat do i do ...my bf is scaring me now adaysShould I tell his parents?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): I understand what you are saying coz i'm Indian too.By proposing you mean just asking you to date him..right?In most countries proposing usually means asking for marriage.
ok..now to answer your qs.I think you are not in love with your current bf because he is so possessive n it scares you.The best way to tell him would be by saying the truth. Tell him you are no more in love with him but don't tell him abt the office guy coz he might go and hurt him as he is already talking abt suicide n stuff.Also, someppl just talk abt these things but don't actually do anything...its called emotional blackmail and its not healthy for any relationship...And make sure that you don't start dating the other guy just as you break up with ur current bf. Give some time gap in between.It will give you time to make things clear in your head and then you can do what feels right to you.
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