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anonymous
writes:My best guy friend, George* and I have been best friends for about fifteen years, and we have actually been living together for close to six months (to save on rent). Recently, I've caught him staring at me a few times and then as soon as I DO catch him, he looks away just as fast and blushes! I have to admit, I do the same to him.Just this past week, my twin sister got married and I was talking to my date in the kitchen (reception was held in my childhood home) when George* and my mom walk in. George* looked at my date with a blank face and grabbed an empty wine glass and left the room without saying a word to me. I looked at my date and he said, "What was that about?" I said, "I have no idea. I need to talk to my mother. Could I have a moment with her?" So then my date left the kitchen and I asked my mom what was up with George* and she said simply and smiling, "I think you should ask him yourself."I know I may be acting like some silly, little, school girl, but that's honestly how George* makes me feel sometimes! Like, one minute, he makes me want smack him and the next, I'm blushing when he even touches me! I'm a 28 year old woman for god's sake!What is going on? Am I in denial of something? I have no clue anymore!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): Men and women who are friends often end up dating and even get married. That's because they were close friends and that closeness is what made them comfortable taking the relationship to the next level. The closeness that is developed through the friendship makes it easier for some couples to have true intimacy later. For women, true intimacy involves communication, and best friends often communicate better with each other than with their spouses or significant others. So if you both think you have feelings for each other, it's worth pursuing.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (25 October 2008):
 I too think that George likes you more than as a roomate. He is struggling to tell you because he is unsure of how you feel and most likely he does not want to ruin the friendship or the living arrangements. It seems to me that you mom knows exactally what is going on as well.
If you do have feelings for George then I think the two of you should talk about how to change things from platonic to lovers. That will be a hard switch. And maybe it won't work out but I think it would be great if it did work out.
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reader, rcn +, writes (25 October 2008):
 you two need to hook up. acting this way is normal. you've been friends for a long time, so it's a desire but uncomfortable to change the relationship into something more. You have a crush. He has a crush. Lucky he's crushing on you back. You never know, "the one" may have been right under your nose for the past 15 years. I hope everything works out. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): i think you know the answer :)
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