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writes:Hey everyone....so it has happened again, broke with my forth boyfriend. It took me two years to get over my third boyfriend but this time we broke up like 5 days ago and I am fine. In fact I am ready to jump back in dating scene.But my worry is that I feel that I am getting older. I will be turning 26 this year. And it scares me. I am done with college and have a well paying job. I am independent. I have no children and I stay alone. I live in a place where girls start marrying at a really young age and If a woman is approaching 30 with no sign of marriage, its wearisome.So I fear that it is too late for me to find love. All my relationship ended either because the guy cheated on me or didn't want to date me anymore. I am a very attractive woman and I know it, so it has nothing to with self esteem issues. Sometimes I tend to think my relationships don't work because of my high education. Man do find this to be intimidating.I want to settle down and have kids. So I want encouragement and advice from anyone who experienced something similar to what I am going through or anyone who knows someone who has experienced something similar. Thank you.
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reader, Sensible Alice  +, writes (23 March 2014):
 I agree that these men might feel being with you intimidating. You're educated, attractive, successful and independent. Some men could find that emasculating. The fact that you're ok and ready to date five days after breaking up with a guy tells me that you're seeking something more than what these men are giving you. You might have to widen your dating circle, perhaps date older men or men established in a profession who are more comfortable with who they are and can appreciate your accomplishments. Don't feel that you need to settle for just any guy because everyone else is married by a certain age. Be proud of your achievements and independence. The right guy will love that you're a successful woman and won't be scared off by it. Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 March 2014):
 You may feel like you are to old to be single, but really this is not the case at all. Everyone is different and you have had a couple of relationships that didn't work. Therefore sometimes I think it is better to be on your own than to be with someone who is not right for you. Off course you are at an age now where you want to settle down and have a family so it can be difficult if you are single. However don't let this hold you back. Get back out there on the dating scene, talk to men and get to know them, most important have fun and hopefully while doing so you will find Mr Right. Good luck.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (22 March 2014):
Honey, life is a crapshoot. You are still very, very young. People are settling down later and later these days, many not until their 30s. You have plenty of time. You know what happened to me? After a series of failed relationships I settled down in my 30s with a nice guy and had kids. He was laid back and not abusive so that was a huge bonus. But I didn't really love him and I was never happy. I settled. We divorced and guess what? I met the absolute love of my life at the age of 42. You know, the one you always dream about, you know exactly what he's going to be like? I'd given up on ever finding him. I have never been happier. None of us can make you any promises about your own life, but I can tell you from personal experience that it's never too late to find true love.
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