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writes:I'm 21 and have been married for almost 2 years. My problem is that on a daily basis I think about how my life would be if I were single (which I haven't been since I was 15). My husband is the second man I've ever been with and we began dating while I was a high school senior. I wonder what real dating would be like, and wish I could live alone for once. At the same time I don't want to make the biggest mistake of my life. He's wonderful, treats me great. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, endlesssong +, writes (23 March 2007):
 If you love your husband and he's good to you, I don't see why you'd want anything else. You said you wonder what "real dating" would be like, yet wonder what its like to be single? Those two are far from the same thing, in my opinion. If you want the thrill of dating, go out with your husband more often! You can still be married and go on dates. And if you need your space, go on a vacation by yourself for a week or so (possibly with friends) and I'm sure after a few days you'll realize how much you miss him. Sometimes we don't realize how great the things we have now are until their gone, so I say hold onto what you have.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (23 March 2007):
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I think you must make peace with what you have become and what you think you are missing, I am sure someone will agree with me when I say your thoughts are normal. If I may ask what is it that you think you are missing anyway? Did you get married because you under some sort of a pressure? Let me tell you something I am single and wonder every time what exactly am I missing in marriage? And the truth is that the only difference is that my beau and I do not have a legal certificate which declares us married but we are practically married because we are always in each other’ space minding each other’s businesses I cant feel like going out with any man I want because we are committed to each other which means I will be cheating on him and the same thing applies to you. My point is life is about wondering whats on the other side that’s how it is. When you were a child you wished you were older and viceversa. The medicine is to accept your life and make the most of it. Your husband loves you and I am sure beside your normal thoughts you do love him in return. So believe me you leave that husband of yours and go on a couple of dates and after that you will regret leaving such a good man.
Jovial
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