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writes: Dear Cupid:I'm a 20 yrs. old female and have never, and I mean NEVER, had a boyfriend. I've been told I'm attractive by several guys; in fact, yeah, I feel attractive...so, appearance doesn't seem to be the problem. Two years ago, I managed to enter Medschool in the first place and ever since then, I've been a top student. I think that may be intimidating to some guys..they say they respect me a lot, but seriously...that is no longer respect, God! That seems like fear to me. Besides, I'm shy...I'm working hard right now, trying to be more open and easy going, and I think I'm making good advances. However, things are getting really hard on me. The only guys that ask me out are the dorky ones...you know, the ones no girl in her right mind would date. Oddly enough, most of friends are guys. Once people get to know me, they say I'm very fun to be with, and a very good friend...still, that's as far as I go with guys.I'm really very depressed. Am I too old now? Is it too late? Will someone ever come along? Are guys really that scared of me? I'd really appreciate your advice, I desperately need it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): hey
don't get that much tense i believe at one point or another in life everybody come across this situation and the bets way to tackle it is to face it .I mean if you want a boyfriend make one but don't go physical at very early stage give and take some time to make your trust rock solid ok.
now take this as a mysterious journey and enjoy it .i did the same and its almost 1.5 years
and you know what this thing is getting better everyday that pass.......
best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): hi....i understand where you are coming from completely!! i am 19 years old and get hit on every day. i've always been a pretty girl. i think im shy, but i don't appear that way. i act outgoing and funny and confident but im extremely scared of commitment. no hell no there's no way we're too old it's the GUYS problem.. at least in my situation, i'm surrounded by a bunch of stuck up phonys or ghetto hood rat no class havin bums...im just thinkin it might take a while. for now i'll focus on working a full time job, getting back into school, and me. i've been a told a million times over that when it comes to love
#1 you have to love yourself first
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#2 you can't run around searchin for love, it has to come to you.
so with that said, find out who you are, embrace it and love it, and it will hit you when you don't expect it!!! :) patience is key my girl!! and i'll be waitin with ya!! lol
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (9 June 2006):
 I have a friend who is 23 and never had a boyfriend and she is smart, pretty, funny, nice etc.
The issue is that no one has come along that she has fancied that fancied her or the guys she likes, she is too scared to ask them out.
It will happen for her and it will happen for you - I think the key is asking someone that you like out, take the bull by the horns.
You make your own luck in the dating world - if you are confident and friendly with men, they will be the same with you.
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reader, sibaan +, writes (8 June 2006):
 maybe you should take a chance and ask a guy you fancy out! maybe they are scared they dont match up to your standard or something. start going to knew places and mixing wityh different crowds.
its never too late for you to find love or love to find you...
good luck!
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