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writes:ok, I'm 19 and I became friends with a boy whos 16 years old and I notice that i started to get feelings for him a little bit so i tried to put it to the back of my mind and ignore it, but recently he admitted that he has feelings for me which is messing with my head because i want to tell him i feel the same way but I'm really worried about what people would think if we actually started dating. I have no clue what to do and i feel weird. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 December 2017):
 Hi OP honestly I think this age gap is much to big for you both at the age you are. You are an adult now and well he is still a teenager. Not only that but females tend to mature more than males anyway. I think you would both not work in a relationship and you are both in different stages off life. I do also think people would judge you for dating such a young guy. If all off this is messing with your head maybe you should distance yourself from him a bit and tell him that a relationship or dating is not appropriate between you both.
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reader, PJ Roy  +, writes (24 November 2017):
Look, we do not know what you know about him, and you are in the best position to understand what kind of guy he is that makes you be attracted to him.
You did not come here saying that you think he's too young for you. It sounds more like you're worried that _people_ will think you are too old for him.
Well, don't be. I'm not saying it surely will work. I'm saying don't let what will people think stop you. Even if it does not work, it would not necessarily be because of the 3-year gap; it would be just like every relationship that did not go on to be marriage and living happily ever after.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (24 November 2017):
 I get that he's the age of consent, but he's still legally a minor and 3 years is quite a bit at your ages. I don't think it's a good idea to tell him your feelings, let alone act on them, but it's up to you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 November 2017):
 Would you feel a 16-year-old dating a 13-year-old is OK?
If not, then maybe 16/19 isn't OK either. While I GET that a 13-year-old is a CHILD still and a 16-year-old is not QUITE a child anymore (at least not when it comes to sex but in ALL other aspects).
I don't think it's a HUGE no-no (whether the 16-year-old is the guy or the girl) but... personally, I think it's still a bit of a gap at that age.
Considering that boys are a bit slower in maturing (emotionally) the gap might actually seem bigger than 3 years.
I also think if this is something you worry about... It really doesn't matter what WE say on this site. You will still feel what you feel. And I think you need to go with that GUT feeling and wait.
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