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writes: What do you think I should do? I get that this is your typical textbook Oedipus complex (fancying older guys due to lack of older male guidance) btw so I don't need any advice on thatanyway, so here goes, I'm head over heels in love with my Italian geography teacher, he's early 50's (I've guessed) and recently told me that he'd never had a pupil like me in his 30 years of teaching, he then dished out a list of compliments, mature, caring, attractive!! we were in private btw. I'm 18 In the second year or 6th form so I know it's not illegal for us to have a relationship although if we did it would obviously be a secret, anyway he always telling me how much he think in some kind of sign of the future etc, think he just has some kind of "paternal" feeling due to being his age and no kids or think I have a chance?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Yes,I have read about the recent developments in your posting of may 15th.
My opinion remains unvaried- I said " you don't have a chance if only he has some common sense. ". Apparently,he doesn't.
A wide majority of teachers would not risk their job,their reputation and their marriages for a roll in the hay with a student. But of course, there are also some reckless old fools around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha, i posted this at the begining of the month, now this is already laughable, thanks for the advice though!!! Hahaha
Lol teenage girls...
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (3 May 2010):
no,I don't think you have a chance if only he has got some sense. Hopefully is not going to risk his job ( because this is what you are gonna cost him if your little secret comes out ) just for the cheap thrill of having sex with a student.I also want to expose the myth that any older guy would only jump at such an opportunity. he may not find you sexually attractive. I am talking in general, I am not talking about you, for all I know you are absolutely adorable and intriguing. But most 18 y.o. girls, no matter how firm and fresh their flesh is ,just won't cut it for a mature man. They are not experienced enough,in sex and in life- they are "all out" ,they lack mistery and sophistication. They giggle or talk too fast or too loud. They have an awkward posture ,or a debatable fashion sense. They are still "raw "- they haven't grown into their own skin yet, which is the opposite of sexy.Again,don't take it personally. It's a generalization.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): I don't mean to be picky but the Oedipus complex is where a boy becomes sexually attracted to his mother and subconsciously wants to get rid of his father, but instead decides to be like him as he is afraid of castration.What you're your describing sounds more like the Electra complex :)
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reader, swordandredrose  +, writes (3 May 2010):
For a second I thought I was reading my own story! WOW! I am exactly your age and the teacher that I love is also in his early 50s and neither does he have any kids!! This is the same question I have been asking everyone on this website and also myself: is it possible that a 50 year old fall for an 18 year old? Is there a any chance between a teacher and a student who is much younger? So as you see, I can not give you a good answer but honestly I think that there is always a chance. Love is magic, it's a miracle. It can make the impossible to happen. You are right about the fact that he looks at you in a fatherly way and unfortunately that's the same problem that I have with my teacher too. However, I think he can change his mind because he has never been a father so obviously he can not have a total fatherly feeling towards you. I wouldn't be saying the same thing if he had a kid. With men like him and my teacher , the situation is different because they have never experienced being a father.Anytime I try to flirt with him he just doesn't get it! Why? because I am too young to be flirting with him. However, sometimes older men can get flattered if they find out that a girl, as young and fresh as us, has fallen for them.Just be careful not to be taken advantage of.
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