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writes: Well this is the first time I seek help on anything of this such, however I do believe it needs to be done. As the story goes: I am a 17 year old female, soon to be 18 this September. As far as my dating history goes I have always been the younger one, I've never dated anyone the same age as me. However my cut off limit has always been no more the 4 years, and that has always been in my mind, quiet an extreme and as far as I've ever wanted to take an age limit. Most people I know, have always thought I'm alot more mature for my age then most 17 year olds, also first impressions all seem to be told that way also. I recently met a 27-year-old, we told each other our ages right away. At first we were both leery with it, but then he slipped me his number, and about 3 days later as I called him. Now, I would have never done this, but I'm so drawn to him, he really is wonderful. And I do know for a fact that he's not in it for the physical part, although he doesn't seem to mind. I also know his history because I work with his sister in-law, and I know that he isn't a perv, or and immature desperate guy, and definitely not desperate at all. We both just told each other we'd play it by day, and keep it secrete, because the age gap could ruin both our reputations. But the thing is I'm really starting to fall for this guy, and I don't want to, because I know it can never happen, and I know he's feeling the same way. What should I do? And what should I tell him?Desperate for opinions,Melissa
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reader, tommy2k7  +, writes (2 February 2007):
 As you know, I have just split up with my ex. There is this other girl who made Tash (my ex) made a promise to, to never hurt me. She did.
Ths other girl is helping through my problems - but she is 17 and a half. I am 27. Taking into account the reply saying that 27 yr old men dating 17/18 year old women only wanting sex, I'm not like that and am starting to have genuine feelings for her. What shall I do??
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reader, DeeDoc  +, writes (6 January 2007):
 THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Hi my young friend. Yes, you do appear to be quite mature for your age. First of all, I pray that this guy is not married. You stated that, "I know it can never happen, and I know he's feeling the same way." There was a period after that dear. If you know it and he knows it, why continue? Before the "infamous fall", end the relationship. Good luck sweetie. Even though you didn't state it, you answered your own question. XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007): If you live in the US, this 27 year old can get into trouble dating an underage girl, so you may want to wait that 9 months to actually date him.
How do you get over falling for him, you stop seeing him and stop taking his phone calls when he does call.
I am a little unimpressed with 27 year old men that date 17 year old girls, I think they are in it just for the sex because even though you sound like a mature young lady for your age, you are still a lot younger than this man is, and he has experienced a lot more in life than you have, and you are still living at home with your parents and he is way past the prom....so in my opinion the age gap at ths stage of your life is a little too great, and I would have my suspicions as to what his real motives are here, sorry to say....so at the very least, do not have sex with him, you most likely will end up lost and alone when he meets someone he likes closer to his own age that can go out clubbing with him and what not and can relate to him more on his own level.
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