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writes:Hi i am 17 and i have noticed that i dont fancy girls my own age. However I have found that I fancy older women is this normal and ok? I know this lady and I fancy her she is 44 and single. I have fancyed her for 2 years now and think she likes me to she always talks to me and looks at me a certain way.When we talk she touches my hand when its on the table and she is always coming around even when she knows my mum is not in.Would it be ok for us to have a relationship and what should my next steps be? Thank you Jake Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): I'm the one who posted earlier, I said I was 46 and he was 24, I miscalculated, my apologies.
(Must have been the thought of what I did and it brought back memories, made me lose it for a moment there)
I was 39 and he was 20. (Ahhhh *sigh* - wonder what he's doing now)
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reader, BigSis +, writes (26 March 2008):
 Useiwayne....
...Jake is from the UK, and in the UK the age of consent is 16 for both heterosexuals (since 1885) and homosexuals (since 2000).
Jake, there's nothing wrong with feeling attracted to older women. Next time you see her check out her body language a little more when she's around you, and if you sense she's flirting with you, then their's your opportunity to tell her you fancy her, and see what happens from there.
BigSis XxX
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Hey Jake, I was about 46 when one of my son's friends came on to me, he was 24. He used to come round our house quite alot.
Often he would pass comment and compliment me, but obviously not in front of my son. He came round when I was on my own one day, and we sat and chatted for a while. I knew how he felt and I was very flattered.
I didn't have a partner at that time.
We flirted and messed about, one thing led to another, and knowing my son wasn't going to be home for a couple of hours - we went for it.
This only happened a handful of times, as there were too many 'close shaves'.
The very thought of my son AND my daughter finding out was too scary for me. But it was great while it lasted, to say the least.
What i'm trying to say to you is, if you really fancy her and have feelings for her and if your willing to take the risk and know you wont cause too much upset then, I agree with what WOW suggests. Get on with it!
Good Luck. x
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reader, useiwayne  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 I also had a crush on a 30-something woman when I was 18. Nothing wrong with that! However, if you did want to have sex with her, please please please think beyong that moment as there are serious concequences legally for her. Don't do it! Wait until you are 18 so that any ramifications will only be be peoples' opinions about the age difference.
As far as a relationship, I can tell you right now that what she wants sexually and what she wants as a mate are most likely very different from each other. Older people, of whom I am one, become very picky about life-mates, and you will most likely not fit what she wants.
Good luck, but please don't do anything rash until you are 18. Don't let an orgasm override sensibility.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): ok honey it's ok that you like her in all but there are sooooooo many laws about this . maybe you should look a few of the up. If you guys "do" anything together and someone finds out she will be fined and stuff and you wouldn't want that now would you ? It's a bit odd that you like someone that much older than you but who am I to judge ? Love can come at any age and it has no age limit and there's no rules to love ..... but I do believe that there are some LAWS about this kinda stuff. You may need to do some homework on this one!
I hope I helped you in some way
update me !!!
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