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writes: I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 15 and we have been together for 7 months but have been friends for 3 years.We don't argue so much but in this one argument he turned around and said that i need to see a counsellor as he thought that i needed to sort my head out because of my past realtionships with other people that have affect me in a big way.Basically the other boys that i have been with have been either putting me down all the time and making me feel useless and not giving me respect,i admit that i let them walk all over me.Problem is now my boyfriend is totally the opposite caring,sweet and he respects me and has never pressured me into sex like the others.I want to get even closer to my boyfriend sexually and emotionally but i feel like my past is holding me back(i want to let go)as i am being shy with him which i am not usually because he knows me inside out and he knows i have a problem.What do i need to do? Get profesional help?Or do i just need time?
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reader, lizabeth +, writes (21 January 2006):
heya, if you go and see a counsellor then you may be a weaker person later on. all your future relationships may be more hurtful and agonising which might result worse than now. you can't go and see a counsellor everytime things look a little rough. my advice, don't, these early years are important in emotional states, you need sort your own way and techniques of dealing with these situations because trust me they'll be loads more. hope ive helped xxxx
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reader, x Chrissy x +, writes (21 January 2006):
 Hey, I think that your bf is right and dont feel like this is a bad thing because everybody at some stage in their lives need to talk to somebody. Do not think that something is wrong with you but your bf could have said this because he cares for you and if this is going to make your relationship better then it is great. I know that you dont want to lose him, so try to get some help. It does not have to be professional help just somebody you trust and you know that they would give you good advice. Good Luck.
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reader, roxysuperx +, writes (21 January 2006):
 Just know the past is the past. The people that made you feel lesser before are just a stage in life. Try talking to your b/f about it. You have a good thing going in that he understands what has happend to you in the past and having that open dialect is soooo important. I give you huge props for being 15 & 16 and handling it so maturely. Again, try explaining to him how those boys made you feel but that you are so happy with your new guy and appreciate him so much. As soon as you build that trust up with him (and inside yourself) you will be so happy. Just remember you are #1.
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