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writes:Im 16 years old and i've been in numerous relationships in the past year buti've never had sex. now this guy's come into my life, i've known him about nine months and thought he was a jerk up until about three months ago when we got to know each other. we get on really really well and i have feelings for him, he says he's got them as well. He's 23 and has a reputation for being a bit of a bad boy. He is cute and sweet and he said that he wants to sleep with me, but i'm a virgin and he has this girl that he lives with. she's really nice and i feel guilty, i really like him but can i really go through with this? Reply to this Question
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reader, shortybabes +, writes (8 June 2007):
 personally i think you shouldn't do it because if you did n this other girl found out, if she is his gf then it could break their relationship up n do you wanna be held responsible for that. I don't think you do. Remember it would be your virginity gone, you should wait til you are in a relationship with a guy who loves you babe. let me no how it goes hun. good luck!
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reader, princessleia +, writes (7 June 2007):
 the fact that you are questioning your actions tells me that you're so not ready to go through with sleeping with him.
also wat made you change your mind about him being a jerk. he could still be that jerk but your feeling for him cloud your judgement. what about the girl he lives with? m gonna take a wild guess and say that she is his gf. do u want to hurt her as well as yourself. and if she is his gf tell her what he said - she would want to know.
also if he really likes you he'll wait until you are older or more secure n your decision. you dont have to sleep with him just because he says he wants to.
good luck
tell me how it turns out
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reader, love-him +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Hey chick if the other girl is his girlfriend i realy dont think u should get involved, yea she might be realy nice but imagine hurting her if she found out u had slept with him.. im sorry 2 sound harsh =\ hope i helped x x x mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Like the 1st anon said just "liking" someone is not nearly enough to have sex with them, especially the first time.
From what you are writing you sound like you are having doubts with this guy, which is enough to say that your not ready. Just wait until you find someone perfect
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reader, Variety +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Is this other girl his girlfriend? You can't sleep with him if it would make you the other woman. He is not respecting you and you could end up with a seriously bad reputation. He is a lot older than you (not that an age gap matters) but it seems like he is taking advantage of you. You can get nothing out of this if he has a girlfriend. It amounts to unpaid prostitution. That was not meant to sound harsh - I can completely understand why you would want to do it. But if you are having to ask on here, surely you know it isn't right for you? Message me if you want to talk. About anything. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): Liking someone isn't just about wanting to have sex with them, it's about wanting to be emotionally involved with them too.
I'd say that you're not emotionally ready/sure as otherwise you'd not be questioning yourself so much. Just don't want you to have any regrets, babe!
xx
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