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writes: dear cupidi would like to know is it possible to leave my house at the age of 16, because i am finding it difficult to live with my parents as i am always causing them problems and trouble. i am living in the UK by the way and just want to know if i can live by myself because i know i am going to end up doing something i might regret to them, i already verbal abuse them.. please someone help me with an answer
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 I think your just panicking because you maybe let rip and were rude to your mother. Its nothing that cant be put right, and if your acting in a bad way or getting in trouble with the police, then your parents have ever right to get mad at you about it.
Thats what discipline is and parents discipline their children because they want to teach them that bad behaviour in todays society isn't acceptable and it shows they love you and want you to grow up to be a decent and responsible adult. People who grow up and break the law and behave irresponsibly have a pretty tough life, its much harder for them to find employment too.
Try very hard to look at it from your parents point of view. By backing down and apologising to them, you will show them how responsible you are. Going through your teenage years is hard enough without having to leave home because you just couldn't say sorry to your folks for getting in trouble.
If you did have to live out in the big wide world by yourself, you would see how lucky you are to have two good parents who care about you and your actions and who buy you the things that you want. Try to be apreciative and stay out of trouble and then everything will settle down.
Good Luck
Aunty Em x
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 Just how do you propose to support yourself? That is, pay for housing, utilities, food, clothing, etc, etc. Certainly you cant expect your parents to foot the bill if you have moved out of their home? If you want to live as an adult, then you had better be prepared to take on adult responsibilities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni live with my parents, thats whats the worse thing is, i mean i am blessed i have everything i need, its i got in trouble with a police officer once and i told my mum in confidence but then she betrayed my trust and went and told my dad and he got a bit angry and started chatting alot of crap... but my mum tried talking to me today and i felt like letting my own crap come out against her.. i cant live with my parents even though they buy me everything i want and that
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (24 July 2007):
It is possible for you to leave home at 16 but it will be very difficult to find somewhere to live and to support yourself without a job. I know you might not want to hear this but I think you should try to resolve the issues with your parents.
Try these websites
http://www.childline.org.uk/Helpandadvice.asp
http://www.parentlineplus.org.uk/
both these organisations have phonelines (numbers on the websites) that have trained counsellors in child and teen issues, they can also provide you with local help and other organisations that might help you get back on track.
Please dont suffer in silence, nothing is unfixable and a lot of teenagers are very disruptive and abusive towards their parents, but the good news is that they do grow out of it. You sound like you want to find a way to make things better in your life so start here, get some help and support and see what you can achieve.
Please let me know how you get on.
Aunty Em x
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reader, LauraE +, writes (24 July 2007):
Hi,
I think it would be difficult for you to move out, because housing is very expensive, and I’m not sure that people would want to rent a flat to someone as young as you.
Could you write a letter to your parents explaining about your fears, and asking if they could arrange for you all to get some counselling to help you deal better with each other? I have suggested a letter, because I remember being at a point where it was next to impossible to have a calm conversation with either of my parents. If you write it all down, and take time over it so that you get everything said, they should realise that you want to do something positive about this. Make sure that it doesn’t sound like a threat – say that you are afraid that things will get worse, and you don’t want that to happen.
An unbiased outsider like a counsellor might be able to help you all agree on how you will treat each other in order to avoid conflict. This involves your parents making changes as well, not just you.
If this doesn’t help, do you have other relatives nearby that you could go to for a day or 2 when things get very difficult? Often a break can help a great deal.
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