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writes:What do you guys/girls think about Dr. Phil's view on porn? He considers it unhealthy and intrusive to the relationship:http://drphil.com/articles/article/54/
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reader, ShannonT  +, writes (15 November 2014):
Hello, I put a lot of thought into this issue, and I conclude that Dr. Phil is very intelligent; he realizes how lucky he is to be in a relationship. and of what life is truly about.A good man realizes that pornography is wrong. It shouldn't even be allowed to be on the computer and prostitution should be illegal. I had many boyfriends in my 20's and not one of them looked at porn. I was not mature enough to handle a relationship then...but it goes to show that most men do not look at porn.I went down the wrong path in life and got into the porn industry. Porn is the most destructive action in society. Just because a person CAN do it, they SHOULD NOT. Women are worth much more than that, just as men are worth more than that!!!It can seem like the easy road but it is not - it is satan preying on all weakness people have. Be strong minded and your life will be fulfilling.It is difficult to get out of the sex industry but you can do it! I am creating a legal business and have many joys now that were not possible in the lifestyle I was in.Don't demean yourself, others, and the entire human race by contributing to pornography. People with minds that are underdeveloped take part in porn.It makes people distrust and doubt and not fully show their love. Be with one person and to love that person only. Only by doing this will people be truly happy and truly successful in life.
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reader, ShortOne21 +, writes (27 July 2007):
 I agree with you above. My boyfriend & I have been dating for over two years and I know he looks at porn, infact he's extremely honest about it. I know a lot of women find it as 'cheating on them'.. but i've came to realize it's not.
Most might think i'm weird.. but i've been the girl who had a lot of guy friends, who was extremely laid back- may look like a girlie girl but am a huge tomboy at heart
My boyfriend and I check out girls together in person.. as a reaction if a guy sees a cute girl his head turns, its natural, its human nature!
I know that guys will always look at girls whether you or I like it or not, what are you going to do lock him up?
As long as he is alive and his penis is working.. he will look and I think females who strongly believe that their men don't look at porn are foolish. I've asked my guy friends before.. has your girlfriend ever been jealous of porn? their answer is Yes.
I say.. well do you quit watching it?
they reply with no.. I just don't let them know and I make sure I either delete it off my computer or hide the magazines.
I also asked them why they do it.. some said for ideas in bed with their girlfriend
Porn doesn't bug me.. masturbation is actually completely natural. it's healthy. Some can use their imagination, others need a visual.
Being a female i've watched plenty of porn.. although certain things don't turn me on as much as it would a guy, it's interesting and I find that I definately learn a lot of new things
Women are just as guility as guys.. we get off too any women who says she doesn't is probably lying. We're just not as open about it as guys are.
Maybe women in being jealous is completely an insecure issue on their part..
I know i'm pretty confident.. I know where i'm going in life, I recently just finished my certification for RDA and plan on going further into dental.. I have an amazing guy and i'm happy with the way I look
I personally told my boyfriend he looks at some distastful porn.. i'd rather look at much prettier girls and he laughs and goes.. that shit usually costs money and there is no way in hell i'm paying for porn. But 80% of guys usually go for body and aren't looking at the females face while watching it.
But all in all. I think Dr. Phil is wrong. Sex Sells these days, it's sad- but it's true. Welcome to our society.
Your guy might like porn, but just remember he loves you & if you have trust you know he's not going anywhere and won't cheat
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey Nigel, you give great advice. Can you explain what the unbridled, unfettered freedom is that guys find in porn and would like from their partners? I would love to do all that with my b.f. but I would rather not watch a porn flick to find out (oh and is anal sex included?). Maybe you can write an article for dearcupid about this; I would definitely read it! Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies. Especially Nigel for giving more viewpoints on porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2007): Everyone has different views obviously. Im against it. Im also against some of the most popular newspapers here inthe UK as they are plastered with half naked suggestive women.
Lots of people smoke! does this mean we all have too?
Lots of people drink alcohol? does that mean we have too?
The answers no. Just because some people like porn, trashy newspapers, fags, it doesnt mean we all have to, and doesnt make it right.
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reader, nigelfuxwell +, writes (23 July 2007):
 I think Dr. Phil is an amazing talent, and he has a lot of good points, but I definitely disagree with him on a LOT of things (especially now that his title should be Commercial Phil instead of Dr. Phil). I've actually seen one of his shows where we basically emasculated a man on national TV because his wife portrayed him as a chronically masturbating, drooling porn freak.Truth is, there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to porn. Pornography has been around since man could make scratch marks of naked women on the side of caves. And then, there's the all important question "what is pornography?" Some would say it's XXX movies, and others would say half the artwork in the Louvre is pornographic.With respect to adult films and adult toys, they can be an amazing little source of spice to a relationship IF both parties are accepting and open minded. Hell, I've even been able to present it in a way that even the most prudish women actually were turned on by adult films or toys.The trick is to understand when it's appropriate, and when it's not. For a woman who feels intimidated by porn, I say NEWS FLASH! WE KNOW IT'S FANTASY! That's why some men would rather watch it than engage in military style wonder bread sex. If a guy is into porn, maybe instead of attacking him and feeling sorry for one's self, maybe a woman might want to ask herself the question "what is it that he gets from that movie that he's not getting from me?" I can tell you, it aint the big silicone boobs for most guys. It's the unbridled and unfettered freedom they see on the screen. Now, I'm not saying that's always gonna be a reality, but why is it so hard for some people (men and women) to understand that it's OK to indulge in fantasy? Especially during sex, if it doesn't cross the line into harm or disrespect.Dr. Phil is no different from anyone else when it comes to his "professional advice". It should be labelled "professional opinion". What works for him in his nice and tidy little Texas ranch doesn't work in Philly or Southern Cali. Truth is, I've walked in on my girl watching porn without me and masturbating to it. It turned me on, and let's just say it didn't hurt our relationship one bit.I think people in the "advice" business need to be a little more aware of other people's individual situations, circumstances and mores.
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