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writes: i am 16 yrs old and i haven't had any boyfriend so far neither have i been asked out or to be someone's gf.i have been only asked once to go out with a guy by his friends but i think they werepulling a trick on me/him. and i know i am beautiful many guys have told me so. i have many crushes and likes on guys i see them staring at me but y won't anybody come up and ask me out? what cud have i been doing that is so wrong..plz guys gals helppppppp
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): i no what you mean im exactly the same, i hate it when your talking to a girl and there like have u got a boyfriend n your like no and there like o well your better off without 1! it really gets me angry! exspecially as my bestfriend cheats on her bf all the time it really makes me think why do lads go for the slags that wont stay faithfull. i no im quite a shy person so i wont ask a lad out but it would kill for a lad 2 ask me out i mean the excuse "lads are shy too" is not true in every case lads ask me all the time for sex i mean is it so much harder to say do u want to go out with me? than do you want to have sex with me??? can u see where im coming from. it just really is annoying i dont no how many of you would agree with this but this is what i think. good luck anyways you need it as much as i do :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): I'm 18 and I have never dated... trust me, there is more to life than dating. The best advice I have gotten from my older girl friend was don't date in high school. There's just too much drama and distraction when it comes to dating in high school - no one is really that mature and school takes up so much time. Now I am in the first month of my freshman year of high school and I have met some incredible guys... I'm pretty excited about the possibility of dating now that I am older, more mature, and in college with more free/social time. Sure, people kind of think I am weird for never having had a boyfriend before and I had one girl say, "You're beautiful. I can't understand why you don't have a man yet." I second what another girl said, boys go for the easy girls... the sexy, slutty girls who'll give them sexual pleasure. Have you ever heard the apple tree analogy? That all the good apples (the good girls) are at the top, but the pickers (that is the boys) go for the lower ones that are easier to get then the good apples wonder why they didn't get picked... I'm a modest, tall, brunnette girl with high standards. I expect a guy to respect the boundaries I have set up, to respect my values and beliefs, to respect my body, my choices, etc. I am not someone who will stand to be pushed around and bullied. Just remember, it is more important to be yourself and maintain your dignity (not pride, but self-respect, a good image) than it is to have a boyfriend.
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reader, NenaUnique  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 oh my god..me and you have this in common!!! finally i found someone just like me!!guys always say im beautiful (expecially the older ones) and i see guys looking at me and giving me the eye..but they know that i am not one of those sluts out there and would be their so called "sex buddy" (ha and im still a 16 yr old virgin)
so for the reason that no one has asked you out is because teenage guys are looking for sex and sluts..they have an ignorent mind..once they hit their 20 they start to finally mature..but dont worry i think me and you will be asked by some fine mature older guy :) just be alittle positive and patient :( even though thats really hard for me. and it sucks even more for me because i like some older freaken guy twenty something and he doesnt care and he doesnt want to talk to me just cuz im 16 :( and all i do is think about him and no matter if there is cute guys around me i think of him...wow i went out of topic..im sorry..i hope i helped a bit
Valeria
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reader, cd206  +, writes (13 January 2007):
 Why don't you ask the guy you like out? Be a modern woman! The problem with most guys is that they're scared of rejection, and this is only made worse by beautiful girls who are seemingly untouchable. Really though there's no reason why guys should do all the running. Hope this helps.
CD
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reader, xBadabingbadaboomx +, writes (13 January 2007):
 A friend of mine has the same problem, only she meets up with guys "falls in love" with them, and then when she doesnt hear from them in like 2 or 3 days she goes all depressed and think they are using her, i told her not to worry about it, cause i believe that there is someone out there for everybody!!
Just be patient and the right guy will come along!
Your the same age as me and when i was 14 i started going out with a guy who was 2 years older than me, we were together for a year and 10 months and then just before my 16th we split up because i just wasnt interested in going out with anyone anymore, i wanted to explore life (not shag about) and i wanted to meet new people and go out an just have fun!
I dont regret going out with him for so long, but i think it would have been better if maybe i had waited a couple more years.
Just go out, meet people, have fun and soon enough u'll be asked out!!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007): Have you thought about just asking a good friend's opinion of why he/she thinks, guys are not asking you out on dates? Personality plays a bigger role than just outward appearences, hun. Are you unapproachable? (cool and reserved) Or perhaps, you are behaving too approachable? (needy and desperate) Or...maybe the guys worry whether or not you'll say yes to a date with them. Sometimes it helps to get an honest assessment from people we trust and care about. Try asking someone, you know will be honest with you and really try some self-examination. And do some research on how you can get boys interested in asking you. Good luck, dear
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reader, heartxbrokenxgurl  +, writes (13 January 2007):
 become friends with his friends n then get close to him n things could work out
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reader, sweetiegirl  +, writes (13 January 2007):
 If you haven't had a boyfriend yet then that's their problem, they are missing out on a beauitful girl. Your not doing anything wrong, maybe the guys are shy and don't know how to approch you. Just talk to a guy in your class that you might have a crush on but don't let anyone know that you have a crush on him, start up a conversation maybe about the class or homework or if your having trouble understanding something your working on get his help, guys love knowing that they are needed. Just be friendly and be yourself, you never know what could happen. just be yourself and you'll find someone, don't rush, be happy that you young and still able to enjoy being a teenager.
Hope that helps and if you need anything please let me know
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