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writes:Ok well I'm 15 and basically I have no life:( I don't really have friends and i just want to live the normal teenage life. Everyone i no has the normal life. They go to parties they hook up with other people they drink. I want to be like that and have friends and go out. every weekend i'm home bored as hell and want to sometimes kill my self b/c i have no life. someone please help me. How do i make friends, how do i live the normal teenage life?I'm also thinking about having sex the only problem is i don't no which size condom i need. I don't no how to measure condom sizes any help and telling me how to figure it out? My penis is 2 inches soft and 3 inches hard. also do you think any girl would want to do it with this size? please help meIf some one can please help me i will greatly appreciate it:)[moderator note: combined two questions from same poster]
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reader, mhmm=)! +, writes (31 December 2009):
Well bud ,your living it.I think the same things to but all them people drinking ,getting high,smoken,ect. were do you think there gonna end up in life.They wont live long!No jobs half them are gonna drop out and most of them have personal problems.You willl seriously get more girls then those guys cause a girl dosnt want a guy thats gonna go around doing every girl.They want a guy that they can trust,ugh def not a player.Im fifteen =) and get offered shit all the time parties sex and everything but still a virgin and have done anything.And let me tell you there hot but thats not what i want.I acctually had like this boyfriend who did alot of girls and he was all into drugs ,drinking,getting high and everything.I made him stop it all before we went out and we were a good couple and i was the first girl he actually cared for and he said hes so happ he stopped and hes now in a better school and he has personal problems like i said most them will.i wont let him get a way with anything hes not even aloud to go to parties but unfortunatly we broke up in september and he started getting high again and hes throwing a party tonight.and i was talking to him last night about it and i have no clue if hes going to still have the party or not but i know if he does then we are loosing connection and he knows that so.to make it clear you can live your life early and have sex ,get,drunk,smoke,high,ect ectect.and die early ,everyone looks down on you,no good job prob jail in future too.or have a nice relationship get married,make money,get a good job and have kids =) i have so many more stories to tell you and hell yeah everyone wants sex but there are sideffects bud!
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reader, karldlewis  +, writes (28 September 2008):
Don't worry your not alone. I'm exacly like you and i know many people just like us. If you can't find anyone close to you that have common interest- join clubs and spread your wings out then you'l find someone you get on with well. Just always rember your not alone and always be yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): Great news... Thanks for the update, that was very kind and thoughtfull of you. Maybe instead of trying to find many freinds, maybe you could just try finding one friend that shares your intrests and values. From this new friend they may be able to introduce you to other people who will also share your intrests and include you in their crowd. Take care of you, and if you can, try to be good. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): For what it is worth; maybe you can consider something similar;
My teenage son often organise a group of kids from his class to meet and go to the movies together; specially with a new release; they go as a group; lots of fun; try initiating something like that.
As for the sex; relax and make friends; leave that for when you are ready!
Good luck!
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reader, tjmc30 +, writes (23 June 2008):
tjmc30 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys for the help. i don't want to have sex anymore but still haveing trouble finding friends. i'll keep trying though
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): why dont you try addding people on msn or even go to teen clubs? Also wait till you have a long term relationship with a girl you love to have sex. Better still, wait for marriage!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): I'm not going to touch no the sex issues.
I think you could be depressed.
Can you talk to your mum, dad or a teacher about how sad you have been feeling?
I think you should go to a doctor and tell them that you've been so sad. Maybe they could refer to to a good councillor. I think you should talk about how lonely you are sweetheart.
Having sex will not cure your social problems.
You should try and take up hobbies that will get you to be aorund new people. Is there nothing you can do in your area? Especially at the weekends when you feel so bored. You could take up a sport, or photography something that will get you out there with people your age.
Please update us sweety.
Emivia. x
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reader, Shawn E C +, writes (23 June 2008):
 i would try speaking to some lads at school, starting off with a few jokes or which ever. then invite a couple of mates from school over to your party, and ask only a few of them to bring a mate of theres over maybe?
get to know there mates and start hanging about with them.
about the condom. i am not quite that sure myself how to measure im afraid, sorry. when i buy a packet, if they fit me then i get the same pack, if they dont then i will give them to my friends and tell them to use them wisely.
hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): This is exactly where i went wrong.. I lost my virginity at 14, drunk and on hard drugs at a party, not one of the best nights of my life i can tell you that, i regret losing my virginity at that age and in that state it just werent cool. The drinking led to a regular thing along with the drugs.. It screwed up my education, i lost a hell of a lot of friends and ended up having an abortion at 15. That's what happened to me when i wanted 'the normal teenage life' but thats no way for a teenager, who's not even legal to be living, its bad man, seriously, take other peoples advice on what you can do to avoid turning out like i did. Thankfully ive overcome that all now, but it really has messed up my life on so many levels. Good luck with everything.
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reader, logicdebates +, writes (23 June 2008):
The other answers are good. Hello, were you paying attention in abstinence ed. class in school? Do you want to throw your life away when you get some young lady pregnant or die early from AIDS or alcohol?
Stay away from people who drink, mate, drugs and party. They are the ones NOT living a normal life! Life isn't about drugs, getting "laid" and parties!
If this makes you feel better, I am a 26 year old virgin. If I can do it, so can you, kid!
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reader, Firefly-x3 +, writes (23 June 2008):
 Actions speak louder than words, and what the others are doing is living the life you want - not just talking about it. That's what you need to do, and trust me, it's easier than you think. The only thing holding you back is your confidence. Tell yourself that you are a worthwhile person who deserves alot of friends AND believe it - because it's true. Then look for a new hobbie like a club to join, something that is of your interest. Maybe an afterschool club, or even a part-time job that 15 year olds can do.
As soon as you start spending more time out the house - the depression will go.
You said you want to have sex but didn't say you have a girlfriend. Don't just have sex with anybody to lose your virginity - wait until you're in a loving relationship with a girl you can trust, and if she loves you for you - your penis size won't be an issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): Please forget about this sex stuff. You present as 13-15 (underage) and currently living in the USA. Anathaniel has been kind enough to give you a few ideas on how to boost your confidence and meet more people. This normal life you long for could land you with an alcoholic problem, a reputation and some seriously upset parents. Please don't end up crying like the last 14year old boy I talked to "I don't want to be a teenage father, she's pregnant and I want to be a kid again."
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): well if u have no friends at school why? if u can just start talking to people in ur classes and if people still dont like u, find something u like...take up a sport? find some hobbies that will let u interact with other people and meet people this way. its hard when ur at school and havent got a friend group. If u can find yourself a job this will also help with making friends....
as for the sex, your only 15 and u are yet to grow, ignoring the fact u dont have any friends seeing as u didnt want people to know these 2 questions were related u only need a normal condom....condoms dont need to b measured just get a normal sized one and it will fit...
hope this helped im sure more pplz will help u out
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reader, anathaniel  +, writes (23 June 2008):
 Hi There,
First off, at 15, you're too young to be worrying about having sex or to have it as one of your priorities in life. Going to parties, hooking up and drinking is not the key to happiness. Believe me, waking up at 4 in the afternoon after a night of Tequila shots is one of the most dreadful experiences in life.
What I see here is a classic lack of self esteem.
I think you should pick a few activities that interest you and work on those. Use sites like Orkut and Facebook to MEET people in your area with the same interests and get ourself a gang that does something productive. The approval that you get from these people will bolster your self confidence and help you find value as a person.
Get yourself a mentor and confidante, a mature person with more experience to help you with some of the more difficult decisions.
Also, work on your self image and appearance. Get a makeover that's in your budget, do something that makes you feel good.
Now to the other part of your question... Your erect size measured over a page of playboy is waaaaay different from what it will be when you're "in the heat of the moment". I also wonder if you're overweight. Being overweight with lots of abdominal fat affects your size too.
Sex for a large number of women is not about size. I feel I've addressed the more important parts of your question. I'll leave the anatomy lesson for someone else. But Seriously, at 15, forget about sex... just enjoy being young!!
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