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writes:Hi, I'm 15 and have been fairly certain I was gay/lesbian since everyone else started getting crushes on guys... and I started having them on girls. I only really accepted it about 7 or 8 months ago though, and a couple of months after that I got into a relationship with this girls, who I broke up with a few weeks ago because it wasn't working. Anyway, my mum and all my closest mates already know but I didn't want to tell anyone else incase it was some sort of teenage phase. I still have never had a crush on a guy, but plenty on girls, and I feel like I'm sick of hiding it from people. I don't think I'll get too many hugely negative responses from people but I'm not sure, I just want to know what everyon else thinks. Especially anyone who is gay, did you know at my age, am I too young to really know? I don't feel I am, but then I wouldn't. Any help much appreciated, thanks xxx
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reader, aim  +, writes (15 December 2007):
 Hey. I agree with miss hwocomehoney there. There really is no way to tell if it's just a phase or it aint. I believe the only thing you can do now is wait and do the little stuff that can make you grow more into YOU. you shouldnt announce yet or accept immediately if you are gay or straight... or bi to say the least. try to hold on and maybe in a year or more, if it does not rub off and you still really like girls. then there you are!Oh and final note, just keep an open mind. ;)
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (15 December 2007):
 When I was fifteen I was pretty sure I was gay but still in the phase where I was hoping I wasn't, and that one day I would magically become interested in boys and stop liking girls. Well, it never happened. Still gay, almost ten years later, so there you are.However, I had a friend who came out as a lesbian when she was sixteen. By the time she turned eighteen she was dating a boy. She has been with the same boy for the last five years and identifies as straight.So... I don't know. Some are, some aren't. How helpful am I?! My advice would be to leave dramatic coming-out speeches out of it. Date girls for as long as it makes you happy. If it makes you happy forever, you'll date girls forever. If one day you want to date a boy, date one. Don't let yourself become trapped either way.
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reader, lilmizagony +, writes (14 December 2007):
hey i still think your to young to know i fault i was a lesbian at your age liked girls and the thought of doing stuff with guys turned me off but i grew out of it and now like guys more so i wouldt say anythink just yet wait until u have left school hun if you start telling people you are a lesbian some might not take it well and u could get bullied not nice your mates have took it well because there your friends also if everyone knows your gay guys will stay away and you never know you might meet a nice guy who u actually like message me if you wanna talk more hun xxx hope it helps
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 Hi,
If you are worried about the negative reactions, you may want to delay it until you get to Uni. Sometimes it's easier in a more loose, liberal environment. If things go badly in a small school, you could wind up bumping into problematic pests in the halls over and over again, there are idiots in every school. You probably already know your school environment and to what degree it is gay friendly. It's just one opinion, perhaps it's a help. However, my daughter went to an American High School in Holland (outside oldest age 18) and plenty of kids were out already. You might be surprised that more people already know about your sexual choice than you think. But definately come out when YOU are ready to! Best of Luck! Hope everything works out for you!
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