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writes:Hey.. Im a 14 year old girl.. and in love with a 17 year old guy.. He feels the same way about me. We care for each other, and I personally could ever love anyone more then I love him.. We both want a future together, but some people deem it as being wrong because of the 3 years age difference.. I live in Australia.. Is it illegal just to date?Not have a sexual relationship.. Just dating?Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): Hey
I can tell you now 3 years is not a big age diffrence. But just be carefull because they say women mature faster then men which means he might still have the urge to disapear and you wouldnt want to start something that could mess up a relationship with the family.
I would like to say if you love him that much go for it but take it slow. Good luck :)
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reader, clickyclick  +, writes (13 October 2007):
 Well maybe your brother and your bf can start to bond a bit aswell or if they alreddy r then thats gud!! When other people say that they think its wrong it does'nt mean its wrong, it's their way of seyin that they would'nt do that. But its perfectly OK!!!
Feel Better,
Clickyclick
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reader, xx_rockstar_xx +, writes (13 October 2007):
xx_rockstar_xx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ohkay thanks..
Yeah he does love me, and he has met my parents before.. My whole family like him except my two older brothers cos theyre protective of me.. hes a really decent guy, and he's from a good family, treats me with respect.. I couldnt really ask for more..
And I do see him all the time, my mum lets me go to his house.. she trusts him, i trust him.. she classify's me as being his gf.. its just other people.. But I wasnt sure if they were just jealous about it or it is really wrong...
I am alot more mature then most other girls my age.. but that doesnt mean anything. Ive been in love with this guy for a year.. and he's loved me for that long too.. we have our ups and downs all the time, but we always sort things out cos we dont want it to end..
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (12 October 2007):
With no sex it may be legal. It depends on local laws. Most place have a law called contributing to the delinquency of a minor and that can be something as simple as disobeying your parents instructions. So ask your parents for permission and be honest about where you are going and what you are going to do.
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reader, clickyclick +, writes (12 October 2007):
It is legal to date anyone, but, as I'm sure you will know it's ilegal to have a sexual relationship with another person untill your of age.
It's completely natural that girls prefer older men, as girls mature faster than boys, most girls do prefer older men. A problem you might have with this boyfriend is that his eyes might start wondering while he is waiting for to be of age to be able to have sex. Though, if both of you love each other you should'nt deny it.
The only reason people would say they think it is wrong because they are probably worried about your safety. Though if you decide anything along a sexual relationship, please remember to use protection always.
clickyclick
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): It is ok to date but do not have sex. You must wait until you are 16 and over. Anyway your body wont be properly developed yet and you should wait until you have blossomed into a beautiful female. Dont worry about the age gap, 3 years is nothing. Just enjoy each moment and i wish you both well.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): Hi. im 14 aswel, n its not illegal jst to date him. I make out with 17 yr olds sumtymes, its fine. Lol n im jealous, i nwant a boyfriend like dat, serious, n u say he luvs u? U shuldnt be worried bout the age, u r blessed to hav sumone dat luvs u at such a young age, i no dat i want to be in ur position! There is no reason to feel bad, ur doin nothing wrong...just dnt let him pressure u into havin sex. I no how 17 yr olds can be. hpe dis helpedxxx
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (12 October 2007):
 i don't think its illegal, but i do live in the UK.
If you want to date this boy then just go for it!
As long as you know he's not going to use you or hurt you, because if you think he will then he's not worth it in the long run
You're talking about a future here too!
SLOW DOWN!
you're not even dating yet sweetheart, just wait and see how things go, you never know, when you do start dating, he may not be all you think he is!
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