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writes:Heyyah Everyone,,I need help i have started ti feel really strong for some 1 in there 40s since i have been talking to him i cant get him of my mind and i find him so amazing id love to just be with him.although he lives quite far away id love to go meet him how do i react to this ??im confused and just need some help should i tell him or just talk to him normally because im sure he doesnt feel the same. Reply to this Question
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reader, sheperd  +, writes (8 July 2009):
Hey there!
I hope your still coming to this site and havent done anything about this "crush" I say crush because thats exactly what it is. First off there's no way you can ever have a real relationship between a 14 and a 40 year old not legally.
if he dosent know how old you are and you tell him most likely he will break your heart. If he still wants to be with you then run because a 40 who wants to be with a 14 old has issue's. There is nothing wrong with you it's just that you are to young and he should realize this on his own and if he cant then that means that he has some mental problems and you should steer clear.
Growning up I had several crushes on older girl's that could have never worked out. It always hurt a little when I came to realize this, but now that I'm older I realize what they where and how improbable it really was.
You are very young and have your whole life in front of you and who know's in 10 or even 5 years from now you might meet and hit it off, at least you'd be legal and a little more mature and on a better foot to handle that kind of situation. Take care and be smart.
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reader, mister.m  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 Try to forget him, really.
Like roxy01 said, he's probably after sex. If not, your strong feelings towards a man in his 40's won't do any good for you. You should hangout with people from your own age! Trust me on that one.
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reader, ROXY01 +, writes (7 July 2009):
 Im sure his plan is to make you think he's amazing and just treating you like a friend not to scare you away.
Truth is... wat does a 40 year old man want to be friends with a 14 year old for?
only one thing!
We cant tell you wat to do and wat to say and wat not to say, but we'v all seen and heared of things like this before and im afraid you may be getting yourself into more than you can handle.
besides have you thought about wat it must be like to be with an old man?? Kinda gross dont you think?
But if you deside to ignore us, and tell him anyway, at least tell a friend or family member where your going and who with.
How do you know this man in the first place?
Only trying to help
Roxy:)
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reader, Danii-N-Dale +, writes (7 July 2009):
Danii-N-Dale is verified as being by the original poster of the question I sent the first message as i needed advise at the time and we are now friends i am going to tell him soon
but im afraid he will stop talking to me as i dont want that to happen he knows my age and he has said i seem nice but my age is to young so its so hard :(( x
Thanx Anyway Rifraf
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reader, Danii-N-Dale +, writes (26 June 2009):
Danii-N-Dale is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHes no pedophile i kno that cos he just treats me like a friend and has never said noting inopropiate he is so nice and wouldnt wanna meet me anyway because he nos my age
But i really like him and if i told him i dont no how he would react
but i am going to tell him soon i just need advise on how to tell him
Please Help
-Danielle xx
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reader, well-help +, writes (25 June 2009):
 okay he's not right
i know you say you have really strong feels because he makesyou feel special and everything im 14 too i under stand but you just like feeling loved but hes using you and you'll get hurt please dont meet with him im honestly scared for your wellfair.
try and block him out of your life find somthing to occupie you this mans not right
you'lll get hurt
please listen to what iv said
hope it helped
xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): No guy of 40 is no way suitable for you mentally of physically so forget him and make some young friends and also concentrate on your study s as you are very young and have a long way to go..best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): Stay away from him. The age difference is much too big, and you say you havnt even met him? He's most likely a pedophile, sorry kid but thats my opinion.
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