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writes:Hi I'm 14 and I can't help but wonder if I am going through a depression..Here is my situation. Well my bf and I recently broke up after 3 years I am okay with that but I also have no friends. When I say this, I am exaggerating a little bc I do have friends IN school, but they never hang out with me or talk to me outside of school. Me and my "best" friend are drifting apart as well. She never wants to spend time with me, I know she thinks I'm boring for a fact. I also am very shy, I also lost my other best friend who was true a few months ago. It seems like everybody is leaving me. And I also know, that nobody other than my family cares or loves me... it wasn't always this way. I also do not even like a majority of my friends... they aren't true. I do not know what to do anymore. When I say I think I may be depressed, I do not ever consider hurting myself or suicide or anything like that but I keep all of this to myself. Nobody knows and I do not want to tell anyone how I hate that I don't like my life. I feel terrible because I know God has blessed me with (not bragging) a wealthy and truely wonderful family.. I feel terrible and selfish to not appreciate this. But I am too embarassed to tell anybody my situation. Someone please give me advice and tell me if I am going through a depression. All answers will be appreciated.
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reader, xxxangelxxx  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 you're not alone, i feel exactly the same, everthing thats happenened to you has also happened to me.
i simply started a diary, i wrote everything down-unusual quotes that expressed my feelings to everyday situations.
ABout you're friends, i tried to cling on to mine but found out that my family was more important, i loved them to pieces and thought i should concentrate on the most important things in my life. I started to think that if my life was shit then i could at least make life perfect for my family so they wouldnt go through what i was going through. When you do this it makes you feel needed and wanted by others-this makes your "friends" seem completly unimportant.
Focus on what you want, don't let the stones get inbetween your toes, don't let branches pull you back, don't let the blood you will lose slow you down, even when your shoes are matted and tatted dont stop running through the darknes, soon the sun will come up.
don't worry about past Friends theres a reason they didn't make it to your future.
To make accepting and thinking about your problems make you higher than others, just be pleased that you can feel at all. Friends that leave you just arent worth it, they will slow you down and stop you acchieving your fullest potential. Your a person with feelings and if they can't understand that then move on and enjoy other things in life that are worth a lot more than them. good luck, i really hope it works out for you. xxxxxxxx stay strong. dont give in. xxxx
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 November 2007):
 First, would we answer your questions, if we didn't care. See there are people other than your family who do. You know you are a very sweet, loving, caring, empathetic, compassionate individual who doesn't exaggerate, likes the fact, don't beet around the bush, because extra information is a waste of breath. You enjoy going out, and wish you would more, but are very content being by yourself and not really being bothered much. You have not many real friend, but people who know your name, you know theirs and say hi passing in the halls. I could keep going and going and going, but I really don't like talking about myself that much. lol
I hope you smiles, I thought that was funny. The reason for that was I recognize that personality as being the same I have. We are introverted. Those who go out and party all the time, can't stay home for an evening, have to bounce from here to there, are extroverted.
I love being introverted. People I know are going to bars, picking up strange women (we all know how that can end), while I'm in the comfort of my home working on papers I need to write and taking care of my children. I guess you could say, this personality typed can keep you out of trouble.
I enjoyed reading a bit of your history. What I really enjoyed about it was where you explained a couple of your quotes, to clarify and stay within facts. You may not notice it now, but that is a huge part of having a strong integrity. All though It's strange now, factual honesty is going to be such an asset when you get out of school and in a professional setting. I'm in law, and that's one benefit of being an introvert that is very beneficial. In my profession if a word or phrase is misused or worded incorrectly, it can change the meaning of the whole document.
I hope this cleared things up for you a bit. Do yourself a favor. As far as holding everything in, get a journal to write your feelings in and as a form of release. I too hold it in, and last month spent 2 days in the hospital due to anxiety from that.
Take care, This can be used as a blessing, use it to benefit your life instead as being a weight on it. Take care.
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