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writes: Ok, im 13 right?This man from Turkey added me on MSN and we have been speaking for around a month or two, and he tells me he loves me, he is 18, and i know he is because he showed me his ID and he also speaks turkish and lives in Istanbul, Digorlu. I love him so much and he knows it, trouble is, he is 18, lives in turkey, hardly understand english, should i carry on speaking to him or not?Last time i didn't speak to him he was crying on the webcam because he missed me and i just felt so bad. What the hell shuld i do??
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reader, donegal +, writes (8 December 2006):
I completely agree with other posts. This guy may be serious, but it's not worth the risk. There are so many people out there looking to prey on young women like yourself. Don't continue talking to him. Don't give him any info. Take care of yourself. I know you're young, but protect yourself. That includes understanding that there are people out there that WILL hurt you if they got the chance.
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 I just had to laugh when I saw this. Lmpao! Sorry... anyway on a more serious note: Delete this guy from your contacts list. I don't think he loves you. And I don't think you love him either. I mean it's only been a month or so and you hardly know him and you've never met him. come on now, you're being a bit silly here. I get all sorts of weirdos trying to add me on MSN (how they got my email address I don't know)but I just ignore them. You should do the same.
If you're so sure he loves you ask yourself a couple of questions: Would he travel from Turkey to see you? Would he risk his life to save yours? (Jump off a cliff, run through a burning building)? Would he still like you even if you were bald, morbidly obese and had no teeth? Would he want you to be his wife? Would he sacrifice his happiness for you? Would he go out of his way to make you happy? If you got ill (God forbid) would he donate one of his organs to you? Would he want to spend the rest of his life with you?
You get the point. The answer to all these questions I think you'll find is....NO! Crocodile tears mean nothing. Please block and delete this guy. And don't add anymore weirdos. ok? When you're older you'll look back at this and laugh hysterically. That's what life is about.Learning as you grow older. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): Ok girlie.. here is what it is. This guy is going to continue this *drama* till the time he is sure he's got you. Then he is going to manipulate you (maybe by crying more or sending you gifts or something) and send you tickets for you to fly to meet him and be with him. When you do that, he is going to drug you and get you to *star* in a porn movie with him and release it all over the internet. No will be able to save you then because he will make sure no one knows where he's keeping you. When you go meet him you will also a few other girls who have suffered the same fate as this. Now, there is no 100% guarantee that this is what is going to happen, but trust me... there are a good 85% chances that this is what is going to happen.Get a hold of yourself and see through this. Not something you want to be involved in. Trust me. I know what I am talking about. Take care.
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reader, honkifuluvnicole  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 Can I just tell you something? Never EVER trust internet relationships, frienships or actual relationships. I met a girl on the internet and we became really close friends, and I went out to visit her in Holland, and we hated eachother. On the internet, we got along SOOOO well and she was one of my best friends, but when we met in person, it wasnt at all what I thought it would be. I thought we would have so much fun, but we hardly talked, I went and hung out with my family that lives in Holland instead of spending any time with her. I think you should stop talking to him...honestly.
Take care sweetie.
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reader, jessekk69 +, writes (4 December 2006):
 I went though the same sort of thing on yahoo when i was about 13, 14 but a egyptian man who lived in the same town as me, anyway he lied about his age, started bugging my family starting hanging around outside my school and following me, i had to get the police involed cause i was so scared, stay well away, this is only going to lead to trouble. good luck xx
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (4 December 2006):
 This is just proof that young teenagers dont know what love is. You barely speak the same language, and you think you love him? No, more likely you like the attention he gives you. This guy is a total nutjob, crying because you didnt respond. Don't you realise he is a weirdo? Cut all contact now.
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reader, arp4hecg +, writes (4 December 2006):
 LEAVE HIM he is probably faking it you should never trust some 1 on msn or other chat rooms if he is 18 then he could either be a pedofile himself or same 1 who works for them so stop and find some 1 decent that speaks english and can be seen face to face
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): Well like i do av friends and we was all talkin 2 him for a laugh. at one point but he kinda singled me out.
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reader, stina +, writes (4 December 2006):
 Hi Anon,
I would seriously reconsider talking to this guy again. I'm wondering why an 18 year old from Turkey can't find someone his own age - and who even speaks his language - to talk to. It's a big red flag that he was crying about missing you, too. I wouldn't be so sure it was genuine, because people who are sick will go to any lengths to trap unsuspecting people (many times young girls) into meeting with them, etc. It sounds like an act to me. And if it's not, it's still alarming he would get that upset about not speaking with you. I mean, it might be different if you two were in a relationship and then he had to move away or something and got upset. But his reaction sounds excessive.
I don't know what this guy has in mind - like what he expects to get out of this "relationship" with you - but he sounds a little off and possibly dangerous because he is so overemotional about you. If I were you, I would stop speaking with him and find someone around your own age to talk with.
Take care.
(PS - make sure that your conversations with him are saved just incase anything would happen in the future where you might need them. If things get out of hand - if you feel anymore uncomfortable than you already do - it would be a good idea to have the conversations on hand to show your parents and possibly the police if it got to be way too much.)
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (4 December 2006):
 lol! Sorry, cant help but laugh! Only thought people like you existed on a very badly scripted British soap:-P
Here's the advice, delete him off your messenger list, kid. Then dont add any wierdos on your contact list. I mean, do you not have any friends to talk to or something?
I'm sure there'll be other people coming round on this post to tell you why you should quit talking to him so I'll finish here
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