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reader, HereForYoux  +, writes (30 November 2010):
Hey babe. Im 13. I lost my virginty to my 15 year old boyfriend. Trust me, if there is one thing that i could change about my life it is when i lost my virginity. If any boy trys to force you into it? He isnt worth it babes, Okay?
Love Holly xxxx
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reader, PocaPocax3  +, writes (28 April 2010):
well , theres NO need` too rush im 13 too,,,,im a Virgin ` don't rush anything because the worst thing you would want to do is regret something you can not take back and your virginity is #1 !
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): The question is not really when... it's how. Do you want to be 13 years old and have the memory of losing it in the back of the car or some dark place that you don't really want to be in. If you are scared of losing your virginity, that in itself tells that you really don't want to go there... YET. But it's in your future...so don't worry. You're not going to end up like the 40 yo virgin or anything! Truth is you will probably go ahead and do what you feel pressured to do and that will be the end of the dilema. I hope whatever happens, you feel that you did the right thing, because you are ultimately the person who has to live with this...honestly, I lost mine at 15... If I had waited one silly little year... I would have lost it to someone more admirable, not perfect, but a great guy.Did Iend up with him? no!!!take time... analyze... don't be pressurede into anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): Iyaa sweetiee Im 14 Myself And im Still a Virgin And im scareed to loose myn too my mate lost hers and she tells me it was the best thing she ever did now shes all sluti and just has sex with any lad she can find i think its disguestin how shes acting but please wait till your ready i think im ready and i talk to my mum about it she says she'll start me on the pill becos i told her i was ready and she sed i have to becareful because she lost hers at 14 and she sed she doesn't regret it becos she got pregant and shes glad she had a baby but she sed she missed out on school and thats well i told her im ready and she just sat me down and said are u sure ur ready and sed al put u on the pill well anyways i think i am ready but im scared to do it and im scared i might do somehting wrong while doing it and then he might tell all his mates im bad in bed well thats why im scared soo make sure your ready first yeah
lots of love
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reader, Main Man +, writes (3 June 2009):
 Don't let your friends tell you that your going a lonely old lady before you lose your virginity. Tell them that your waiting until you meet someone specail or until you get married. Don't pressured by them it's up to you when you want to lose your virginity not them I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): Hiaa; i know wha you mean! i am 13 aswell and nearly all of my friends have lost their V, it make me feel left out. well they all say that im frigid and gunah be that 60 year old virgin and stuff like that. well i dont let them get to me because i know that they ar going to ruin their lives. im not sayin that evrione that has babies at young ages have ruined thier lives because some are happy im just sn that im not goin to let them get to me and im goin ta caryy on as i am and just bee realyy flirtty but not let hem get in my pants ! :) good luck :) x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 April 2009):
 Doesn't anybody look at the date?
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reader, Ravyn66613 +, writes (13 April 2009):
Most of these answers are very patronising. Your age shouldn't matter, you just need to be absolutely sure that you're ready before you lose your virginity.I can't offer much specific advice, I'm a virgin myself (but there are plenty of websites that can offer you advice). However, I do know that if you're not ready, don't do it. If your partner (at the time) is worth your time, they'll understand and not force you into anything.Basically, don't feel pressured. If its because friends are talking about it, ignore them. Most teens lie about having sex, anyway.I hope you are comfortable with whatever you choose to do. There's no right or wrong, just how you feel.
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reader, psych.counselor.gus +, writes (15 March 2009):
DONT DO IT BABE! You're most likely a very cute and intelligent young woman, otherwise you wouldn't need this type of advice! Boys will always want sex. It's in their nature. But boys who care enough about you will wait until you are ready. I truly think that it is in your best interests to wait a few more years---I'm not saying that you need to be celibate throughout your entire youth---but wait until you are comfortable enough, until you care about the person enough, and you arer old enough to understand the enormity of the act. The last one's VERY important, and right now I'm not sure you're quite old enough to see that right now. So, kiddo, wait a couple years. Try something different. If your boyfriend truly loves you, than he will not be angry (for too long, anyway). He will learn to be ok with it; provided that you find other ways (one's you're comfortable with) of making him feel that you truly care for him on a deep, intimate level, while at the same time keeping him satisfied in the pleasure department; and do it for as long as it takes for you to be comfortable with doing the deed. Psych.Counselor.Gus
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reader, Angeluhh +, writes (21 February 2009):
I was 13, and I regret it. I mean I can't tell you what to do but I would wait. Because if you do lose it to someone who doesn't love you then you will regret it and it is the worst feeling in te world and I don't think I will ever be ok with not waiting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Iv been on puberty since the fourth grade and I've lost my virginity this year.Im only 12 but I look a lot older.
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reader, AussieSheila  +, writes (16 October 2008):
Well, honey, if you don't want to lose your virginity then you don't have to! It is your decision. But keep in mind that it is illegal. Think about STD's and being pregant. But after all, it is your decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Hunii.. don't lose your verginity at 13.. you shouldn't even start to think about that at this age.. I was 16 when I lost mine and I still felt I was too young.. don't make a bad choice.. I'm not saying wait till your married.. but dont think you have to do it because your friends or somone else you know has done it.. don't let peer pressure get to you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): Hon, Your only 13 and you too young to worry. Your still very young. Think of happy thoughts!
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reader, WOW94  +, writes (6 November 2007):
BE careful and try hard NOT TO LOSE IT!..it should be soemthing special and with soemone special and u imagine the condom splits and u get pregnant that would be the worst thing ever ..im 13 yr old virgin too and I will try to maintain myself a vigin until marriage i hope you do too! Take care !
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): im 13 and .. my mate has lost his virginty to a girl that fancys another boy i dont kno wen im going to lose it i think im going to lose it when im ready and with a boy that ive been with for a long time and i kno that he loves im not gna sleep around just so i can say ive lost my virginity
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): To tell you the truth it all depends on how you feel i remember when me and my ex gf did it for the first time we both were not ready and it caused problems just wait till you feel ready it can be at any age any time
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): hi, u dont need to loose ur virginity just because all ur friends have u should think about urself more than u think of others but if u really want to loose ur virginity and u have boyfriend that u know is inlove with u and wont leave u when he has had sex with u then if u feel ready then do it. im not saying rush into things by saying this its weather ur ready or not. im 15 and 16 in a week but im stll a virgin and i have been with my boyfriend for 2 months n he wants to have sex he is not a virgin. i was with my last boyfriend for 11 month and we tried to have sex but it would not go up, if this happens u have to keep trying. but make sure u take care with what ur doin because if uu dont use protection or ur condom splits u could become pregnant. so i hope my advice was good for u thanks cya and taek care p.s emember make sure he doesn't rush u into it do it when ur ready not just because ur friends tell u 2. cya
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reader, JamBelly02 +, writes (14 September 2007):
hey you and your friends shouldn't be thinking about sex,especially at the age of 13 dats way too young,just beacause ur friend is having sex dat don't mean you and ur bestfriend havin sex,and so wut you don't need to transfer if you kno you a virgin den hey keep ur head up and go about your buisness cuz i kno if dat was me i wouldn't care what other people say but i will also will beat dat CHICK ass i kno dat but im just sayin don't be so fast to loose ur virginity with some strange guy dats 16 wait for ur lover dat you been with a long time.!!
REMMBER THAT LIL GIRL.LOL
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): omg help please i was at my friends sleep over (im 13) and her parents left to go to the store which was 60 mins away. aways we were watch this funnny movie and doing nails and hair. when this really popular girl who happens to be my neighbor says she needs the phone so she says oka and like 19 mins later she has a bunch of 16 year olds over and they brought beer and condoms... and she says i have a beer and condoms and a guy 4 all of you. and i was like omg omg omg.. and i dont even like thinking about sex... i am way 2 younge. all the other girls were like unsure. and she goes i ll show you! and she goes and has sex with some random boy. and amy who is throwing the party says where did u find these guys and she goes these are my bfs! i am like ppleazzz no. and she goes ur all going to have sex tonight!!! OKAY? and she goes i dont feel likes a condom and the my parents walk in bcuz they 4 got to give me my sleeping bag and they say what the H E double hockey sticks. and this was a week ago now at school me and my friends are call the 6 sluts, me and my bestfriend want to transfer, my parents arent mad cuz i told them the truth and ratted out the REAL slut. do u think i should transfer and was it okay i said no? i hear girls talking about it in like 6 grade some girl goes my boyfriend gave my a hickie... im like omg omg i got to get out of here!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): ohk i think once you want a speacial time with the one you KNOW you love then go head but NOT @ age 13!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): When I was 13 I was terrified of losing my virginity too, because I just wasn't ready. Believe me, one day you will wake up and feel ready to have sex. For me that day was a few weeks before I turned 16, although I waited until after my birthday to be legal. I really badly don't want this to sound patronising to you but 13 is too young and I think you'd regret it if you did it now. Do your best to wait, you won't regret it I promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): look im 13 to and my best freind lost her virinity just last year she told me it was nothing speical but it she would do it all the time if she could in january this year her mom found out she was'nt aloud to see the boy again she told me she regrets it now and she wnated her first time to be amazing. i was so jealous but then i though hey i dont want to lose my virginity to any old boy i go out with. im so scared to about losing it because my mom always says to me losing it is like making a mark on piece of paper because as many times you try to rub it out it will stay in your mind forever. so wait untill you think you am ready thats what i will do when i meet the right guy. but i will still be scared right up to the moment i lose it so dont forget this will be with you for the rest of your life. so dont rush into things just chill and coz it dont matter what your mates am doing its your life dont ruin it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): I agree anon female, my younger sister is your age, and its wrong!!!! when you are old enough and mature enough, youwill meet a man wholoves you, and nature will take its course!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): way toyoung to be even thinking about sex
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reader, bollywoodbeauty +, writes (23 December 2006):
 if your scared of having sex, this is an indication that you are not ready. i made the mistake of losing my virginity at 14 and i still regret it to this day. although many people may tell you "its the best thing ever", sex is not all tht. on the other hand making love, is bliss and when you are older, and in a loving commited relationship you will no longer be scared since you will feel ready. just wait, ther is plenty of other things you can do! ;) take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): Your way to young to be losing your virginity at this age,sex is a big step and you should wait till your abit older and when you have met your mr right. You dont want to be losing it at this age, you'll regret it in the end, alot ov girls regret losing their virginity at a young age,theirs more to life than having sex at a young age and getting yourself in a mess,theirs alot of things which may go wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): I think you should wait a couple of years before you choose to lose it... one of my close friends lost her virginity at your age and she regrets ever doing it... but you choose to do it make sure he's worth it and always remember to strap up!!! cant stress that enough
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reader, vixy +, writes (7 December 2006):
don't worry! it's ok to be scared to lose you virginity. at your age i was as well.
but you will be ok. just remember wait until your with the right person and it feels like the right time.
and trust me you'll know. but don't do something you'll regret later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): Of course your scared... your 13!
If you did have sex the person you'd be doing with would probably be breaking the law!
It's difficult to really give good advice with so little information but I assume that a boy or peer-pressure is trying to get you have sex.
Anyone with an shred of maturity will tell you that whether you have sex for love or lust, you should be someone you trust and feel comfortable with. You clearly don't or you wouldn't be posting! My advice is wait until your not scared!
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reader, arp4hecg +, writes (5 December 2006):
 you are 13 that is not the right time to have sex your body is still growing and there is no need to have it so early if you are going out with some 1 and he is trying to force you into having sex then he is not the right man for you quit worring and enjoy life
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reader, lonleyheart +, writes (4 December 2006):
 woah woah no need to be thinking about that right now you got ages to go yet there hun so just chill relax hang out with your mates do waht 13 yr olds do :) and when the time comes and found somone who loves ya and cares about you then you'll be ready but when ur older
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reader, bonym +, writes (4 December 2006):
 Sweet girl, please, please, please do not think about losing your chastisity right now. When the time is right when you are much older and with someone you love and care for, you need not be scared. But right now, dear girl, be a child, do things that 13 year olds do, sex is not one of them. xxx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 December 2006):
You don't have to worry about this for quite a while. When the time is right you'll know it and have absolutely no fear. In the meantime just keep a nickel between your knees :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): then dont
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reader, kellyO +, writes (4 December 2006):
 Hi sweet,
I think u shouldnt do anything that makes u scared. You are still very young and can have friends on a casual level until u are ready. You will be ready when u meet the right person, at the right time but that i feel is some more years to come.
Take care.
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