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writes:im 13 n still a virgin. i've been goin out with my boyfriend for awhile. one day i was on the fone with him n he just asked if i as a virgin. of course i said yes. then i asked if he was on he said no.i said oh ok, cuz it didnt really bother me. so then he asked me if i would let him take my virginity. I need help on deciding bcuz sometimes i think i am ready even though i am only 13 but then other time im scared.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2007): No you shouldnt, i went through the same thing im 13 also and i have lost my virginity you lose more than you get trust me.
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reader, Little girl x +, writes (24 February 2007):
 Please say no, i know it sounds like cliche babe, but if he loves you he'll wait.
My friend lost her virginity at your age too, and whats shes been put through in the last year is horrible.
Coz he will move on, and you'll be known as the whore.
Then again, if you love him, its your decsion
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): do you love him?if it takes you a few 'umm's' or 'errr's' then you should consider saying noand telling him to waityou never know whether he's telling the truth about not being a virgin: it could be thta he's trying to impress you and make himself seem really coolso i think you should wait until you want togood luck and well done on keeping your dignity=]
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reader, hails  +, writes (21 February 2007):
 remember its illegal to have sex till your 16 and if your scared your not ready, when your ready it will just happen but dont let anyone pressure you into it as if they do then there not worth it
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reader, becca_767 +, writes (13 February 2007):
No! do not feel pressured if your boyfriend loves you he'll want to wait until your ready, if he doesnt wait then you know that it would have been a mistake to have slept with him. you will know when your ready dont let noone preassure you or tell you otherwise. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): please dont do it! i was in the same position as you, and it didnt go well!!
he wasnt a virgin, but i was, he asked me, i was scared but i did it, i shouldnt of, i regret it soo much! i wanted to wait untill it was the one i loved, i thourght he was, but he wasnt realy, just a little kids game!!
please please dont do it!
u WILL regret it! beleave me! and if he keeps on asking when you have seaid no, i wouldnt trust him, he obviously justs wants sex! dont do it please!
hope this helps, get back to me if you can! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): You are so young! How can you know for a fact that he is worthy of you? I think you need to grow up a bit more and really get to know yourself before you go doing anything like that. When I was 13, I was still playing with Barbie's...not saying you should forget this kid and go play with your Barbie's, but that is exactly what you both are: kids. Be a kid because it only happens once and there is no need to rush into anything like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): Hi there sweetie.Well in my opinion I think 13 is a very young age to be getting sexually active. But it seems like kids of all ages are doing it now. So I would say if you are very sure you want to lose your virginity to this boy and you feel like your comforatable with him, then yes. If you are scared and feel uncomforatable and awkward, I dont think your ready. Your very young and you may think hes the right boy for you, but you could be wrong and regret it later in life, and its a really upseting thing to regret. Just take some time to think about it, if your not ready.. talk to him and if he really does like you and respects you, he'll wait. If he then pressures you, hes deffinatly not the right guy to be losing your virginity too. It has happened to so many of my friends, and I hate to see it to happen to anybody else. I was lucky and I found the right guy, and I hope this guy is right for you, and if not I hope you will soon find him. I hope you make the right choice and best of luck to you sweetie.xox
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reader, lola manola +, writes (4 February 2007):
 I agree with the others, if your feeling scared you arent ready. age has nothing whatsoever to do with it, some people are more mature to have sex at 13. i was 17 when i lost mine but tht was because i was a late developer and was not interested in boys at that age. if your not ready for actual sex, theres other things you can try with your boyfriend. but please god remember you can still catch gross diseases having a fumble. and also flavoured condoms are so much tastier than actual penis. trust. have fun sweet and dont let him pressure you, if he does hes not worth it. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2007): Hey Sweetie!
It's all up to you...if you think your ready then you can say yes...BUT only if you are 100% sure. If i were you i would leave it until you know for certain you love him and you are ready for a sexual relationship. I was in this position six months ago when my boyfriend of 2 years asked me the same thing, i asked him to wait for a bit because i wasnt certain i wanted to and he was very understanding. we waited a few months intil i was totally sure and now im glad we did. but i also have a friend who didnt wait and now regrets her choice to loose her virginity.
So please think things through before you do anything!
And whatever you do PLEASE have safe sex...use protection!
Good luck,
A.S x
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reader, cd206 +, writes (3 February 2007):
 If you're scared you're not ready to do it. At thirteen you need to give it a few years because relationships don't always last that long and boys often kiss and tell so you don't really want those things to happen to you. However, if you decide to go for it make sure you have a chat to your doctor first to ensure that it's safe sex.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2007): if your scared you're not ready. and the fact that you've written on here for help shows deep down you know that. don't do it sweetheart your just a child still. the age of consent laws are there for a reason, to protect you from things your not emotionally ready for. you've got your whole life for relationships and sex. your boyfriend should respect you and he shouldnt pressure you into this. i promise you that if you wait, you won't regret it but if you dont wait you probably will. you sound like an intelligent girl and i'm proud of you for not just rushing into this and doing it just because your boyfriend wants you to like so many girls. its your life, its your body and its your virginity so be mature and strong and tell him you just dont want to do that yet. :D xxx
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reader, Bella_Babe57  +, writes (3 February 2007):
 Wait a few years until your seriously ready, otherwise you might end up regretting it.
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