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writes:Hi. I am 11 years old and I am really upset. I asked my boyfriend to the movies. He said 'yeah, i was going to ask you anyway' so i got all excited, this being my first date with him, (i've been on others) but then he ruins the moment by telling me that his friends are coming, including his best friend (who happens to be a girl), who i am jealous of because he spends more time with her then anybody else. and he talks about her, but they are only friends. (as so they say). So then i ask him if i got scared, would he hold me..? because its a scary movie. he said 'no,because its not scary' and it is .. i saw the trailer. i feel so hurt and stuff.. i know i cant always get what i want.. but he like never says he loves me, my msn name is i love hisname but his doesnt say anything about me.. and its just soo.. difficult.. i dont know what to do.. does he love me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): well no offense but i dont think that her loves you.. i think he wants to be friends.. but dont give up he might eventually
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reader, W  +, writes (25 January 2007):
That is so sweet. I don't want to patronise you when you're obviously going through an emotional crisis and a difficult age but someone seriously needs to give you a hug and buy you an ice cream. Just because the world is going on about growing up and having boyfriends, doesn't mean you should lose sleep over this boy who I'm sure is perfectly nice but has no idea all this stuff is going through your head. Enjoy being 11.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): Why would he love you? You're 11 and you've been out once. You don't know what love is! I'm not saying he won't love you over time but it'll take another five years before a guy is ready to tell you he loves you so get comfortable. There's a long road ahead.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Well, to be honest, I'm not suprised that he isnt in love with you. I mean you've only been out one time! I think you are confusing love with liking someone. He must like you or he wouldnt go out with you, but he doesnt know you well enough to love you. You are only 11, and will realise when you are older that love takes time and commitment...not one date.
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reader, penaltybox +, writes (25 January 2007):
aw hun, don't worry... like Carrie said girls mature at a much faster rate than boys, both physically and mentally. And besides, at your age you shouldn't have to be worrying about love... you should be having fun and enjoying life. Boys will come and go... what you think is love to him might only be casual. Chances are that when you this young your relationship isn't going to mean much anyway. But don't let that discourage you...
Go to the movie anyways, have fun... don't fret about the little things.. =^_^=
xoxo, penaltybox
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (25 January 2007):
 What's your definition of love? Just because someone doesn't hold you during a scary movie does that automatically mean that that person doesn't love you? No. So from reading your post I think you are quite young and not old enough to really know what love is or what to expect from love. So in answer to your question, no your boyfriend doesn't love you and you do not love him either. Having your MSN name as "I love ____" is a bit silly but you are only 11 so I'll give you a break. Which brings me to my other point. Just because his screen name isn't something similar about you does that mean he doesn't love you? Just enjoy dating him and don't think that because you're boyfriend and girlfriend you're meant to be in love. Not at this age you're not.
You shouldn't really let a little thing like him holding you for a scary movie make you feel hurt. It's really not that big of a deal. And as for his female friend, I understand the jelousy you feel but don't you have any male friends that you hang out with that you've known before you met your boyfriend? If it is bothering you so much then get your boyfriend to spend more time with you, do more things together. But again, at the age of 11 being in a serious relationship involving love is not really advisable. Don't you have school work that you can focus on?
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reader, xx-miss-cupid-xx +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Hey x
11 is a really young age, so I wouldn't worry too much. It's not exactly going to turn into a heartbroken love movie. This is your first experiences of love.
But if I was answering this as if you were older, then I would say just talk to him. Talk to him normally, ask him whether he loves you and if he doesn't give you a straight answer, don't wait around for him.
Good luck!
Cara -x-
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): At age 11, what do you expect love is and what do you expect your love interest to give you?
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reader, CarrieMagdelene  +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Aw, baby girl, don't worry! Trust me on this: Not only do our female bodies mature faster (in other words, we start sprouting hairs in private places and growing up faster) than boy's bodies do, but we mature MENTALLY and EMOTIONALLY faster than him! I doubt this guy even understands love like you do! :) He probably also invited friends to the movies with you guys because he's A: Too nervous to be alone with you, or B: He's got no clue about what a real date is! As for the love thing, it's important to really decide how you feel about someone before dropping the 'i love you, shnookums' bomb on him. For some guys, it's instant. For some guys, it's like HURRY UP ALREADY!
At a young age, I experienced the 'why don't you write my name on YOUR notebooks' and the 'change your SN to MY name!' thing. You know what? Some guys your age are just embarassed about things like that. It's not cool to have a lovey-dovey girlfriend when you're an eleven or twelve year old boy. :)
He'll grow up soon. In the mean time...Make friends with his best friend. The girl. Get on her good side. She could be pretty cool! :) Good luck, girlie! -Carrie
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): Honey, don't take this the wrong way, but I think it's much too early for love.
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