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writes:I'll never get a boyfriend or girlfriend. I am 15. I think I might be bisexual. Everyone else who is my age that I know has had a boyfriend or girlfriend. Everyone tells me that it will happen. I say that it will never happen. There is no guarantee. I have been asked out by 6 guys already, but I knew that it was a joke. Every guy that asks me out is a player and has kissed or maybe even had sex with everyone they have dated. It hurts my feelings. One time I said yes to one of those guys and I regretted it. He hated me. He made fun of me every day. It hurt my feelings.I'm ugly. It's true. Here's a picture: http://bit.ly/eXEzq I am so ugly it's not funny. No guy or girl would want to go out with someone who looks like me. My hair is ugly. I have so much acne all over my face. My nose is big. My lips look weird. I am fat. My arms and legs are fat. I wish I could feel better.
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reader, bryan gonnzalez  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 dont worry someone will go out with u and i bet u are cute and u are not ugly and mybye if i new u i will go out with u but send me a pic of u and u are not ugly
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2009): Heey hun.
First of all id like to say: youre not ugly. not al all.
People say youre ugly cos they have problems with themselves. And they dont know better.
I have the same problem as you have. And yuo think youre bisexual. Theres nothing wrong with that really. Im bi.
When i was 7 i got skincancer, now im 15 and im busy with plastic surgery wich is needed. really.
Ive had anorexia. Cos i thought i was fat, i was not. And even if i was it was a stupid thing to lose weight.
The Anorexia feeling is still chasing me. And girl, please dont think youre ugly, youre not. if you think that now, it will chase you for years. Be happy with yourself, and if you really weigh too much, you could ask a dietist or whatever its called for help and information.
if you still think youre ugly, why not trying things that makes you feel confident? Or try something new! Try a new style you like. Suprise yourself, make yourself happy with things. do things that make you confident. but understand, confident is only the 'secret thing' for your mentally thing. Sorry for my bad english btw, its hard to write my feelings and advice down. but what im trying to say is... make yourself confident, try new things, do things that make you feel happy. And shine.
No one will see you if you dont shine. but real beauty is from the inside
guys/girls like happy people.
Sorry if ive been too hard. But if youd like to talk some more you can add me on my msn. good luck girl, youre gorgeous. (Your lips are truly beautiful, im having lipofilling injections to get those lips!!)
xx liann, kylie.minogue@ live.nl
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reader, noonespecial2  +, writes (26 July 2009):
Gidday,I am a firm believer that the beauty of a person is within them. I know that sounds like a cop out but it is true. Have you ever seen a wonderful looking guy or girl and then you speak to them and all of a sudden you think "they're not that good looking", well that's because their beauty inside doesn't match their outside. There are also people who aren't so good looking who are fun and just seem to have that something that attract people to them. When you speak to them they all of a sudden become better looking. That's because their beauty within shines outwardly. I had a look at your picture and was very surprised. I seriously think you have the wrong impression about the way you look. You are beautiful. I know that no matter what I say, you won't believe that because you are down on yourself. Your problem is not that you are ugly and fat etc..., your problem is that you have low self esteem and you are not judging your looks accurately. If you keep telling yourself that you'll never get a boyfriend or girlfriend, that you are ugly and fat, you are confirming this belief in yourself and will feel and act that way. You must stop thinking of yourself this way. Would you say those things to your girlfriend? Please don't be harder on yourself than you would be to others. I think a good exercise would be to write down all of the things you like about yourself, all the good points you have and replace these thoughts (the truth)with the, I'll never get a girlfriend or boyfriend, I'm ugly etc... (the untruths)You are the only one who can make you feel good about yourself. Has anyone ever told you these things, because I just can't figure out how you think these things. In regards to the boys that have asked you out, you'll need to be friends with them first, get to know them . It may take a while because your trust has been broken but take more time to get to know them before you say yes to a date. Within time, you'll know which ones are real and genuine and which ones are duds. I suggest you get a book from the library about how to build good self esteem. This is the only problem you have.Good luck
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reader, drummer2002 +, writes (26 July 2009):
First of all...HAVE FUN! Don't worry so much if a guy is going to be your boyfriend. Just make sure you are treated well and respected. You are getting asked out so you must not be "ugly!"
The bigger issue is your self confidence. The more you stop worrying about what other people think the more attractive you are. Be a beautiful person inside out and you will attract more of the same. Keep telling yourself that you're beautiful and you will appear more beautiful to other people!
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reader, hijackedheart +, writes (26 July 2009):
you're 15, at that age i could honestly say i felt the same. this time last year i did feel the same. why let them get the better of you? your 15, you dont need a bf or gf. but i know you may feel lonley at times when your friends are with their other halfs. but you try to look to the positives of being single. Also I'm a chubby gal and i still get dates, and yes i have spots too yet thats nothing a little foundation couldnt cover. but i stopped wearing make-up and i stopped dieting because why should we conform to the ignorance of society. All i can say is you shouldnt hate what others hate. because deep down they may not hate it , they may just hate it because others hate it. wow thats confusing. you should wait for the right person; rather than look for love...let love come running for you. you're very pretty indeed and someone special will seethe beauty you fail to realise because i really do not think ugly can exist physically i think ugly is just the personalities of arogant people. and you are very pretty :]. dont change yourself, dont call yourself and belittle yourself because then your with those idiots and thats not you. my advice is stay strong. it's going to be a rocky ride for a few years but you'll settle down when you ARE ready. xxx p.s. If you want to talk more about this just message me. i like helping people :] x
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (26 July 2009):
First, your not ugly... and the first part of being attractive is having a positive attitude. What you are is YOUNG... girls mature at different rates - you will mature. Ask anyone who's got to a high school reunion... what we saw 10 years after graduation was the most of the girls had changed in college and were KNOCK OUTS... the guys had changed too, but for the worse. In 10 year, most were fat and bald. The footballers had it worse than all of them, as after playing sports for so long, they'd gotten really fat. Most of those guys (who everyone assumed would go far in life) didn't amount to much.I've got one freind from school that was a total geek, short curly hair, big round glasses, thin, and played the bassoon (sp?)... not pretty, but a nice personality... she just moved back, and I couldn't beleive my eyes... 10+. Time works magic, you're just going to have to go on faith, and do your part...eat right, get some exercise, stay out of the sun, don't smoke (kills you skin)... Hair you can work on, there are skin treatments that work 1000 times better than in my day... if you're carrying some extra weight, watch what you eat, and start walking... simple walking is great exercise and you'll feel better.Feeling better is the first start to a great attitude, and confidence is sexy - so is having a mind... you're of an age where guys are likey to be attracted to girls they either think are hot or easy... I'm not too sure what girls are attracted to... so can't help there... probably someone who cares, is considerate and will keep private things private.Relax, don't be so hard on yourself, and know that MANY of us where feeling wierd at your age... time is a great thing, and your time will come!
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