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*taliano1188
writes:so this guy who i really like says he has feelings for me. i know he does because he shows how much he cares for me. well he said he isnt sure if he can give me what i deserve, which is committment. well we took one week away from each other. he said we need to take that time to think about whats best for the both of us, so it was his idea. he texted me one day before the week was up which was Sunday and said hey so i know he missed me. everytime we are together we have sex and its killing the both of us. me because he isnt mine and for him because he feels like hes hurting me. do you think if i played hard to get and acted like all this stuff didnt bother me, do you think hed come back? maybe dont text him as much and wait for him to text me and then blow him off a little. ill do ANYTHING to make this guy miss me and realize that im worth giving committment to!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 i dont think that there is anyway that he wont make a decision that suits him-its what we all do. whatever motivates him wont change and if he doesn't want a relationship for a given reason then that will hold weight.
but maybe you seem clingy, put the ball in his park by not ringing all the time and see if he responds to this. if not you know where you stand. demanding answers does not get them, you need to read people-if you are sex to him then you know how it is...
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reader, sexi suga +, writes (8 July 2008):
o god this is exactly the position i am in... what i realised (the hard way) that no matter what you do the guy will only chnage his mind if thats what he wants to do trust me no matter what you do or say wont change his mind...what i did was just took a step back... as in just cut him out dont be so avaliable for him as he knows that no matter when if he wants you he can get you and often guys play on that power... if you do start being less avaliable for him he'll realise that hes letting the best thing in his life go...however just to warn you this could go two way... either he will come back to you as he feels he cant be without you or go and find someone else thats wants he he wants (casual sex) and if he does that yehh you will feel stupid and used but it will be his loss and you will realise that he was not worth the time of day... good luck sweetie and dont stress... if hes for real he will come back to you if not u will know what a dick head he was for screwing u head up
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reader, candlelight7 +, writes (8 July 2008):
 I don't think you should play hard to get to prove to him he misses you when you're not around. In my experiences, that pushes a guy away. Since you have sex with each other, you should bring it up casually. "You know, since we already sleep together, can't we just have each other?" I bet that approach would wake him up.
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