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writes:ok so im 8month pregnant, 15, and by boyfriend -hes the dad- keeps forcing me into sex, he sexually abuses me and accuses me of cheating on him and goes everywere with me and if he cant he gets one of his m8s to go with me instead , he beats me up calling me a no good slut hes injected me with drugs once and i cant remember what happened but i dont think it can be anything good , he wasnt like this befor i was pregnant have i done something wrong? he doesnt think i love him hhow can i proove i do love him and that im not cheeting? yesterday he made me smoke drugs and i didnt/dont want to, he makes me drink alcohol with him sometimes, i need to get the baby checked out nearly everyday, so far everything seems ok but we cant tell till its born, hes punched me in the stomache from time to time i love him so much and a need to know what ive done rong how can i ask him without him going bazerk with me? please help il do anything to be how we were
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reader, sunrise +, writes (30 May 2007):
 I really feel for you, who you love is not the person you are with, its the memory of the person he once was, you haven't done anything wrong, it sounds like he's messed up his life with the drugs and alcohol and has insecurities of his own that unfortunately he takes out on you.
He is abusing you in every sense of the word and for the safety of you and your baby you need to get out of this controlling relationship.
People who take drugs turn into very selfish self absorbed people, they become moody, paranoid and delusional about their own take on what is right or wrong, they lose control of their emotions and invariably can not see that they are hurting those around them and usually dont care as long as they get what they want. He needs help but it doesn't sound like he will admit that.
You have your whole life ahead of you, leave him now, concentrate on yourself and the baby, one day you will meet someone that will treat you good and it wont be long before you wonder what you ever saw in this excuse for a boyfriend.
Be safe not sorry, take care and please keep me posted on how things go for you and your baby x
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reader, love-him +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Babe he is abusing u, and even worse SEXUALY ABUSIN U leav him babe until it is too late, he has most likely already hurt ur lil babe n he has definatly hurt you to get to your babe. i understand your love for your boyfriend but the way he is treatin u is unaceptable. now if u feel up to it, then i sugest u talk to him about how ur unhappy. you REALY need to start lookin after YOURSELF and ur lil babe.. imagin if he killed you or your babe how would you or your family n friends feel. i suggest you leav him babe u will find someone better x x hope i helped, mail me n keep me posted x x x
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reader, laurie-loo +, writes (30 May 2007):
 i know you love him very much and i understand you want to stay with him because of your baby, but staying with him is jepordising both your and your babys life. this boy is very dangerous and he cant care about you as much as he says if hes forcing you into doing things against your will. i know you want to make things work for the sake of your baby, but your risking your babys life by staying with him. and not only that but your risking your own. he cant care about this child if hes punching you in the stomach and injecting you with drugs. you are in a extremelty dangerous situation and you need to get out of it now. im sure you have lots of freinds and family around you to support you through this really hard time. you need to tell someone whats happening. you and your baby deserve so much better. i hope everything turns out ok xxx
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reader, DV1  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 You've done nothing wrong. He's a PSCYHO!! He's CRAZY!! Pack your bags, and go somewhere where he can't find you. Get your number changed, get a new job, and start over. If you stay with him, you will most likely die, or have permanent damage done to you and your little one...
DV1
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reader, candy00s +, writes (29 May 2007):
 I understand that you love your boyfriend but he is abusing you and your baby.
Please for the sake of your unborn baby find the strength to leave him. Can you move in with family and get them to help suppport you?
Dont let him control you, taking drugs and enduring physical pain isnt good for either of you. Im worried about your safety.
Things may have been good when you got together with him, but can you honestly see things getting any better being with him? Think what he will be like when the baby is born? Think about the damage he may have already done to your baby.
Im always here if you need to talk to me (you can send me a private msg if you prefer)
xxx
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Look hard as it may seem this person is not good for you. It sounds like to me he is trying everything to harm the baby and yourself in the process.
Was the pregnancy planned? Was/Is he supportive to bringing up the baby when it was first known?
To me the best thing you can do is lose this person as he is clearly not good for you and I hate to think what he may do next. Step back from your emotions for one minute and look what he is putting you through. Is that love? I dont think so.
use your family and any other means of support you have around you to get away from this person. If you want this baby to be born without any problems then i would advise you do this sooner rather than later.
What he is doing is absolutly wrong no matter what his motives, you and the baby are worth so much more than this.
Find a way out of reach and find some sort of protection before something dreadful happens that cant be reversed.
Please stay safe and look after yourself and the baby before you think about your feelings for this inhuman person.
R
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