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writes:My BF finally told his old girlfriend to stop calling him because it was upsetting me. She was very upset and starting saying that he would have never tolerated that from her (not being able to call an old girlfriend) and i must be controlling and she'll never speak to him again, and so on.My view on this was that if she thought they were just friends keeping in touch she would have understood that it wasn't appropriate to call him all the time and she wouldn't have gotten so upset.What do you think/ Reply to this Question
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reader, elsie  +, writes (5 May 2007):
 totally agree with you honey,there over shes an ex why the phonecalls?what exactly do they need to discuss.its not the right behaviour.i do feel a bit sorry for her but while she still thinks theres a glimmer from him shes not really going to move on.lucky for you youve got a guy that understands that your feelings come first.good for you.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (5 May 2007):
 No, I think she feels let down by a good friend. Put yourself in a similar position. Say your boyfriend didn't like one of your close friends and asked you to stop spending time with her... would you expect her to accept it because she's a true friend or to be upset by it?
This isn't meant to be an attack on you for being made insecure by her calling all the time. It's natural to feel jealous and to want to control the amount of contact your boyfriend has with his ex and while it's possible she's upset because she still has unresolved feelings for him, it's equally likely that she felt like they were finally friends and resents not being able to be his friend because of someone else.
Of course it's possible that I'm totally wrong since I don't know anyone else involved but I think it's totally possible that she's upset for a different reason to what you think.
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (5 May 2007):
 Hey Huni how long have they been split up? and how long have you been with him? maybe she is just finding it hard to let go but your his priority now so im glad hes told her to stop calling if its upsetting you that shows he wants you. I totally agree with that last bit you put there about if there suppose to be friends thn ys she so upset about it so agen tht just brings back that she still really feels something for him but hey if shes never gonna speak to him agen shell probably get over it then :) heres hoping ay lol good luck let me know how it goes :)
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