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anonymous
writes:I recently met a girl and she seemed really into me. She was constantly coming into my place of work and speaking to me whenever she had the chance. On one occasion a friend of hers had to physically drag her out and away from me! My boss was constantly watching disapprovingly and telling me to get back to work etc so i never really had time to steer the conversation towards getting her number. Two weeks ago she told me she wouldn't be able to see me for a couple of weeks as she had to go away and seemed upset as she wouldnt be able to see me. She mentioned where she would be so i went there at the weekend to surprise her and FINALLY get her number lol. Unfortunately she wasnt there, i couldn't find her. So in the end i just found her on facebook and sent her a message (i didnt add her). I mentioned i had tried to find her but couldn't, tried to make a silly little joke about it just kept the message light etc and said if she wanted to i would love to meet up with her some time. I didn't offer my phone number. She is back now and i know she has seen the facebook message as there has been other activity on her Fb page. This was four days ago and she still hasn't replied. I just find it odd considerig how she seemed to like me sooo much, and now i haven't heard anything from her. Why hasn't she replied??
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (6 April 2013):
 It could be she didn't get the message. It could be that she's still coming up with the perfect response. Or it could be that she's lost interest.
Not much help, huh? All I can really tell you for sure is that there isn't anything you can do except wait for her to walk back into your office or respond to your message. What I don't recommend is sending her another message because if she did see it (and I think there's a way to see if the person read your message), then things might start to feel awkward for both of you if you continue to pursue the matter.
I'm curious, though, why you hadn't already added her as a friend on Facebook when you two were still regularly speaking?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): I agree with the 'other' Facebook inbox comment. I've been asked before why I didn't reply to people's messages when I have never seen them. It's always people who are not my 'friends' on Facebook so the messages go into a junk mail type folder. The next time you see her just casually ask her how she is and see how she acts towards you. If she's the same as usual there's a good chance she's not seen it.
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reader, angelgirl789 +, writes (6 April 2013):
well what can i say just try to see her again and talk to her and tell her how you feel about her tell her that you miss her and apreciate her friendship just be there for her as a friend. well goodluck in everything keep me posted k.
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reader, R1 +, writes (6 April 2013):
 The message probably went into her other inbox on Facebook, if you aren't friends with someone your messages don't go into your main inbox so she might not have seen it?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (6 April 2013):
Hi there. Do you both work for the same company?
I am asking this, because you said that she used to come into your office all the time, which makes me think you must work for the same company, and in different departments.
And if you don't both work for the same company, well then how did she get to know where you work?
And how did you meet in the first place?
It seems strange that although she told you where she was going for that 2 weeks, that she wasn't there when you went to see her there.
Because why would she tell you otherwise?
She probably didn't want to be secretive or lie to you, and wanted you to know that she was honest, I suppose.
And that is a good thing, definitely.
It is hard to say what is going on in her life, as she hasn't mentioned it as yet, and so you can only believe what she tells you and hope that she is being honest.
Perhaps she is in a rocky relationship, and doesn't know what to do about it.
Or, maybe she is just broken up from a relationship recently, and is unsure of where she is heading now.
I really think you have done all you can for now, having already left a message for her on Facebook, and so she knows how you feel and that you are interested in her.
So really, it is up to her now, to get back to you.
The ball is in her court.
So in the meantime, just get on with your own life and see your friends and have some fun in your life, and just see what happens in time.
Only time will tell.
It is really up to her now, as to what happens next.
So you can't force the issue.
Does she still come into your office, since returning from her trip away?
If she does (this is assuming you work together), well then there will be opportunities to talk.
And if not, well then it's a waiting game, I'm afraid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2013): You did mention that she was upset about something and that she couldn't see you. She may have met you on the rebound from another relationship that may have been going through some unresolved issues at the time. She might be in the process of breaking up with someone. Maybe she's a hopeless
flirt.
Give her some time. She may come back with an explanation soon. Remember the friend dragging her away, it may have been because the friend was doing this to slow things down.
You've made an attempt to reconnect. Be patient. Just wait.
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