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writes:Okay, I’m a gay guy stuck in a sticky situation, no pun intended. I’ve been hanging out with one of my friends from high school recently, and she told me how she doesn’t have feelings for guys anymore, and she introduced me to her boyfriend, whom is bisexual. We instantly clicked and had the biggest crush on each other. Here’s where it gets interesting. After convincing me for two weeks that he liked me a lot and had a huge crush on me, I decided to take the initiative to try and kiss him, and he pulled away. The next day, he texted me that we should “just be friends” until he gets over his girlfriend. But the thing is, he isn’t trying. He still buys her things, he still spends every living moment with her, literally, a majority of it is spent at my house. He still calls her babe and kisses her (not in front of me, but i still know he does it because he makes it painfully obvious). I just don’t understand. If she doesn’t like boys, why is she still with him? Should I wait for him? I’m stuck. I don’t know if I should give up and move on, or if this is worth waiting for. I really like him, but it feels like its going nowhere. The girl leaves for college in September. Should I wait until then? I just don’t know if I’ll last that long… it’s getting pretty rough watching him with her…. I just don’t understand why he led me on to begin with. If he wasn’t over his girlfriend, he should’ve never told me he liked me, right? :/I've recently decided to start distancing myself from him a little bit. We spend literally 6 out of 7 days of the week together, but I've never spent a day with just him, without the girl. I love the girl to death, but I really feel like its her that's holding him back from opening up to me...I've never been in a situation like this. I've only had a few boyfriends, which lasted a maximum of 2 months. I finally found someone I thought I could see myself with for a while, but I feel like he's starting to prove me wrong :( I need all the help and advice I can get.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (18 July 2011):
 It sounds to me like they haven't quite gotten to or finished the break-up process or they think they can patch things back together.
Just sit tight. It'll work itself out one way or another.
In the meantime though... don't limit yourself by obsessing over him. You're right to distance yourself from him at least a little. If you do that... and he's really into you... he'll probably start paying more quality attention to you &/or finish getting rid of the girl friend.
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reader, Purple Pillow Power  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 I think he may not WANT to be gay and fights it but its still there and he likes you. That may be why he pulled away from your kiss because he doesnt want to be gay. (Sorry I the word gay offendes you or something.) He may want it to really work with her but wants to go with you as well. I think you should wait untill she leaves and then try and get closer. She may also be gay and want to hold it back... anyway, hoope it helped. If not sorry. :)
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