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writes:Dear Cupid,There's one guy I like but I don't know if he likes me back.I've known him for nearly a year now, we've been good friends, but I didn't really see him often because he lives on the other side of London and I was busy with college and he's busy with university but lately, since summer has started, I've seen him more and I've started to like him or develop a crush on him...I'm 18, he's 20. One thing about me is that I'm inexperienced, I've casually dated a couple of guys but have never had a boyfriend and I've only had one kiss which was around two years ago, so its all still new to me...There's certain things he would do which would make me think that he is interested in me but at the same time there's something telling me that he's only interested me in a friendly way.There are a few scenarios which made me think that he could be interested:1) He's always talking about going to watch a film. (We both love movies so he said how we should watch as many as we can, together2) In London there was this Orange Rockcorps concert being held where you earn your ticket. You basically have to volunteer with a community project for 4 hours and you get a concert ticket. So I helped out with one friend of mine and I told him about it and he volunteered to, he wasn't even interested in who was performing at the concert cause he didn't even bother to ask which celebs were coming.3) On the concert night, he stayed over at my house along with 2 other friends of mine, simply because it ended late and they lived too far away for them to reach home.On the night, us 4 were just generally talking but then 2 of my friends decided to go to sleep in the guest room, so now me and him were in the living room.As soon as both my friends left the living room, he said "Can I have a hug please?" And approached me with his arms open so I hugged him back but he pulled away and said "I don't hug like that"... Hugged me by my waist and said "I hug like this" and he gave me one of the tighest hugs I've ever had and it lasted for around a minute or so. We were up talking until around 6am and my friends went to sleep at 4, then I went to my bedroom and he slept on the sofa bed (we didn't sleep together don't worry lol)4) The next morning we were all just in the house together, quite tired from the night before. Me and my friend went into the kitchen whereas he was in the living room with my second friend.Now my 2nd friend asked him "What's going on between you two" and he replied "We're friends..." So my friend said "Do you see more?" and he said "I'm confused, I don't know" but when he said this he looked away shyly then looked at his phone. and when my friend asked me the same question, apparently I did and said the exact same thing. (Looked away and looked at my phone)5) Both my friends left early cause one had work and the other one didn't bring any clothes to change into so he felt a lil disgusting and then it was only me and him left.He had a shower then my mum came home (she's never met him) so I introduced them two and they got on really well. My mum didn't have any suspicions of him even though she's never met him and he stayed the night, she didn't question me as to who he is or why he's here. She was just talking to him for a good 45minutes.6) I walked him to the train station to say bye and again he gave me a really tight hug but he was stroking one spot on my back as he hugged me, if that makes sense?Now, we've planned to meet up again but I'm not sure when exactly, and he's invited to a BBQ my mum's holding next week, so he'll be attending that too.There are quite a few signs but at the same time I just don't know. Its not enough for me to fully tell whether he likes me or not. I do know he is a lil shy at times cause we were talking about confidence and he mentioned that he can get shy sometimes depending on different situations that he's in.And he's friendly with a lot of people so I can't tell whether I'm just another person he's friendly with or whether there's something actually there. Any help will be appreciated. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBecause I'm not ready to mess our friendship up if the feeling isn't mutual.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 Why don't you tell him you're interested?
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reader, Purple Pillow Power  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 WELL THEN! I think he likes you, but you mentioned he's shy so he may want YOU to make the first move(some guys are like that.) Anyway I think you should start to get more and more closer to him then ask him out if thats what you want to do. If not tell him he's a bit over the top with the hugging thing and let it rest.
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