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writes:If my ex boyfriend has really moved on why does he always dodge me...?I was driving yesterday. and noticed a car sort of behind me and then noticed it was my ex with his new gf in the car. He was about to pass me until and get in the turning lane i guess he noticed it was me then he slowed down and swirved behind another car. I kept driving looked behind me and he got back in the turning laneI just thought it was weird, laughed and kept driving. A couple weeks before this he was expressing to me that he wanted to get back together was just saying all these feelings he had for me (while with the girl hes with now)After about a week he said we shouldnt talk and now states he is "happy" and wants to be with her. Nothing about him shows he is happy even his tone of voice when he talked to me. He basically got into the rebound thing and doesnt know how to get out of it so it seems like hes staying with her for the convenience of it, rathering then trying to win me back.I guess i wanna know if he has really moved on with her and is happy why does he have a problem seeing me in public? Does he not want to see me because it will make him think twice, or does he not want me to see him?I have a boyfriend. Im just wondering why my ex does these weird things (actions) clearing showing that he hasnt moved on from us and thats clear from the things he said to me but then again he turned around n said he "wanted" her. Everything about their relationship yells rebound but its like he tries to convince himself otherwise once he starts talking to me again.Thanks for the help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Just forget about him, if his in a rebound let it run its course, because if it doesn't work out with this new girl which i doubt it will you and him still need space from each other. He's just wanting for the right person that he can really relate to. You and him are done with. He's acting like this because he's really doesn't have anything to say to you, and he doesn't want you gloating over how happy he is or sad. He's just trying to find out what he really wants out of his life. He has not found himself yet and the new girl is just like you said a convinence to him till he gets his bearings straight. Maybe one day you and him might even enjoy a cup a coffee at a restraunt in the future. Good Luck To You!
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reader, medha  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Agree with Chigirl. If you have moved on, why do you care what your ex thinks and wants and the way he acts? Not healthy for you, also the only way to move on is by cutting all contacts. I tried to go the 'friends' route with my ex, but realized that it would make me forever care for him (and he certainly didn't return that).... so, all contacts off and I have moved on!
So, well, stop thinking of how he acts etc. Just live your life.
Love
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Why do you care so much? I think you are the one who hasn't moved on. Your ex's reaction is normal. I've moved on from my ex too, but I could only do so by cutting all contact with him. And yes, even though it's been around 2 years, when I see my ex I just wanna run and hide. Not because I still have feelings for him. And I haven't sat down trying to analyze why I feel the sudden need to walk in the opposite direction of him, so I can't tell you why. But I can tell you, it is NOT because I want to "reconsider", and my current boyfriend is certainly not a rebound.
So, why do you care so much about your ex and his relationship? If it is a rebound or not, it is hardly any of your business. Your ex feels the need to cut you out of his life. I say let him do that. It is nice and all if you don't have that need, but some of us do.
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reader, mum45  +, writes (5 June 2010):
Its clear he hasnt moved on, but unless he will admit this to you , theres nothing you can do really. If you are happy with your new guy, forget your ex and enjoy your new love, If not maybe its time for you to be brave and ask your ex straight , good luck x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 June 2010):
He just finds it awkward. Let him go, and just move on. There's no hidden meaning. He just wants to move on and not have to deal with you. That's it. Just let it all go and move on.
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