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writes:Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend dated for eight months. We broke up over the summer because we couldn't see each other. Now that school has started again he wants to get back together. I love him but I'm not sure if we should get back together. I'm afraid that if we get back together this soon then he will think we can break up whenever he wants and I'll be there taking him back. I want to get back together with him, but I also want to show him that we can't break up whenever he decides that things are not going his way. What should I do? Please Help.
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reader, Daemon Velvet +, writes (13 August 2006):
Possibly, but you need to decide whether the time you spend together in the period between you getting back together and him leaving will be worth it. You know how much pain you will feel if you go back to him and it happens again - but then again, how will you feel if you do not go back to him. There is always an element of "what if" with everything in life but only you can decide if you are strong enough to go back and deal with everything that comes with him. If you do decide to go back then you need to talk to him and work out why he left the previous time and you need to make sure he understands the effect it has on you.If he wants you back then he has clearly missed something about you and your relationship so you clearly matter to him. Before you make any final decision either way I would talk to him and see how you feel but make sure he knows that you do not want it to happen again. Best wishes - and good luck I hope everything works out the way you want it to!
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reader, Juliette  +, writes (13 August 2006):
 You are afraid he will move out just when he feels like it, but you won't know until you try as one event isn't much to go one. In any relationship you risk getting hurt and if you are more attracted to him next time it will hurt more if he leaves. On the other hand if you don't give him another chance you will never know. If you have a good relationship then you should be able to talk about your fears with him, and also listen to why he felt he had to leave, but you cannot force him to say he won't leave again because at this stage he cannot know himself. You can only listen to his reasons and both learn from it. Try to not be too clingy as that may put him off and make you look desperate. Try being a bit easy going even if you don't feel it inside as if he is worth it he will hang around because you are a pleasure to be with rather than a painful one.
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