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writes:Ok so I'm very unlucky when it comes to my love life. I have a very free spirit and I like to be free. I've been dating this guy for eight months now and I'm so confused. Everything seemed so perfect until today. I looks back in all the happy times we shared, and I smiled. But now... I guess I just don't like having my life so content when I'm only sixteen. He talks about getting married when we're older. I have plans of moving to florida and he plans to come with. But he plans to come back and I'm not sure I even want to. He's my best friend and I can't picture my life without him. But I don't like not having a chance to have mystery, flirt, or be with someone who can make me happier.and I don't know if I wanna leave him because we have All the same classes next year and I don't want it to be akward. I know I really like him, I just don't know if I wanna stay. I wanna fly with the wind but I think I forgot how. Sorry for boring you. Thank you for reading
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys I verymuch appreciate it
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 April 2010):
You're not ready to settle down yet, and you know it. So don't settle. Have fun and be free. There are plenty of guys out there, and at some point in the future you will meet the one you want to be with. But you're not ready yet, and there's no point in forcing yourself into something you know you don't want. Have fun.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 Born free ,as free as the wind blows. You are still young and there are so many things to see in this world.
Enjoy your single life and let your spirit roam all through the four corners of the Earth.
Grow wings and fly as high as you can.
If it is fated, your path will cross again or you may find someone who is much better than him.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 When you're 16 you should be flying with the wind. You should be exploring your free spirit, learning about yourself, and revelling in the freedom that comes with life without commitments. This is the time to be doing it -- this is the one part of your life when exploring is expected, welcomed, and when missteps can be forgiven. If you're with someone who is holding you back from that, then with all respect I tell you you're making a mistake.
You are *exactly* right when you say "But I don't like not having a chance to have mystery, flirt, or be with someone who can make me happier". This is the time to explore, not to be tied down, which is what's screaming between the lines of your post.
Sow some wild oats, get it out of your system. If he's your best friend, if he's the one you're *supposed* to be with, he'll be there for you later when it really is time to settle down. You're not there yet. Don't let him put you in a cage.
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