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He wants to try anal.

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Question - (11 April 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 11 April 2010)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My bf wants to try anal sex.I kinda want to but I am scard it will hurt . any advice

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A female reader, LoveGirl South Africa +, writes (11 April 2010):

Hi, seems like you0are not ready for anal sex. You are 16/17 yrs - how long do you know your bf, how committed are you both to each other. Without getting into too much detail. Anal sex can be highly traumatising to a lot of people esp if they are not ready or if they are being pressurised. Your bf (don't know how experience he is) needs to learn patience. It is not about just sticking it in. If you are not 100% comfortable of if you need more time then tell him. Plse do not feel presurised by him. You still have plenty of time to get to grip with anal sex. If however you and your bf have discussed this and feel ready and it is seen as an act of love then there are many many questions relating to anal sex here on dc. Read this as well as your bf. He needs to learn the proper techniques, what is permitted and what is not so that you both get the maximum enjoyment. Also know that the first time will be major discomfort but as time goes on it should get better.

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (11 April 2010):

Yos agony auntYou 'kinda want to' sounds like you don't want to. You know your bf wants to do this because he's seen it in porn a lot, right? And you know porn is not like real sex? Does he know that?

Just don't do anything you're not comfortable with, or feel good about. You are young and it's probably better to leave these kind of things until you are older, more confident, and better able to communicate about sex

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A female reader, ARS93 Australia +, writes (11 April 2010):

hello,

okay firstly its ur choice dont let him pressure u if u do not want to...

but from my expirience it wasnt even bad

if u choose to do it here is some advice

LOTS of lube!

make sure u empty your bowels before this is VITAL!

and third, dont force it in!

start with a finger then gently let it in, once its in it feels better trust me it will feel a little wird while its going in and will be a bit sore but its actually kind of good;)

well good luck!

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (11 April 2010):

C. Grant agony auntFirst off, you should only consent to things *you* want. Don't let him pressure you. I know anal has become mainstream in porn, but in the real world it's not for everyone.

Second, there have been tons of questions about it here, and some really good articles too. Spend some time searching the site -- you'll get a lot of good information, and some worthwhile warnings as well.

Take care.

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