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writes: I came on here a few weeks ago about a bloke from work who seemed to be interested in me - turns out he was. We have now met a couple of times. We have text each other quite a bit with him saying he really enjoyed being around me.Unfortunately he is being made redundant from his job and suddenly on Monday night this week when he rang up, he was obviously very tired and got quite shirty and said 'I am about to be made jobless in 4 weeks and homeless and I have a mortgage to pay and childcare to pay for and I am extremely harrassed', I will give you a call in a day or two.I then text him that night to say did he want me to back off for a while as obviously he had alot to deal with. I said that I would still be around when he got himself sorted. He then rang me the next day in work to talk to me but got called away by a client.I text him later to say was his call business (to talk to our boss) or pleasure (to talk to me). He replied that he had hoped to have a chat with me and the rest of text message confused me as it said 'Not happy pretending but thanks xxx'. I wondered what he meant by that and asked if I had upset or confused him in my text message by offering to back off for a while. He replied that he didn't know where that message had come from and it wasn't aimed at me so don't worry.The next reply basically said I get your point, don't take this the wrong way, maybe you are right we should play it cool for a while as he was under extreme pressure as his main concern obviously was his home and job. He said that he would sort something out with us eventually so don't worry. Next day I text him to say look if I can help in anyway I will, did he want me to lend him some money (this was actually being a friend because I can't bear to think of him and his children homeless). He rang me at work to thank me for the text and to say that sorry he didn't reply but he has to be careful using his work phone for text messages and his own phone is not working (which a friend of mine has confirmed this is true).Yesterday I text him briefly to let him know that I was picking up his trophy for him and would give it to the boss to pass on to him and there was no need to reply to my text as I didn't want to get him into trouble.He replied saying 'Thats very nice of you to do that' Hope ur ok xxx. I text him later to tell him something and he replied with an ending of hope you had a nice day xxx.He rang into the office today (obviously he is stressed out about loosing his job next month) and asked if I was ok and then asked if the boss was there.I text him this afternoon just to wish him a good weekend and hope he is getting things sorted.As stupid as it sounds in his text messages he keeps fluctuating from a large X to X x X to xxx and I don't know whether that means he is still interested or just doing it as a normal end to his text messages after our misunderstanding earlier in the week.What would you interpret as 'Not happy pretending but thanks'. He is obviously extremely stressed out and I don't want to cause any further hassle but I don't want to waste my time waiting if he has no intention after straightening himself out of coming back to me.I take it the kisses in text language don't necessarily mean a lot. Should I just let him go, he's a gorgeous guy with a lovely personality and has respected my wishes not to jump straight into bed.If I am wasting my time I have only got another 4 weeks before he leaves the company to have to deal with him and then I can get on with my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Hi Hunny
He is well stressed hun, He also sounds very depressed and coping with the loss of a job can really put you into a deep depression expecially when you have children and rent to pay I went through all this and man it was hard..Ill send you a link so you can see maybe some of the symptoms he may go through and you will then understand his behaviour patterns. Dont give up he needs understanding dont feel he is being nasty sometimes its all stress related hun and in his head he probably thinks you could well do with out this so therefor Not happy but pretending is just as it says. Its so sad when this happens to someone you care about love you may need the patience of a saint and if he is worth it then good things come to those who wait hunny...
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You wont need all that jumble hunny computor is having a breakdown you have a read and you will maybe understand better of hows the best way to help TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, jabey  +, writes (22 February 2008):
hey relax, the guy still sounds interessted. Did the text means he is not happy bout loosing his job, but is pretending to be ok with it for the boss ????
anywya besides that, all those kisses seem a sign of affection to me. and he has said he wants to sort things with you.
Try to chill out, dont put pressure on him. you are doing good by being there for him. Dont keep asking him about your relationship. at present he will be very stressed thinking about his future home and job.
Be his friend support him, no pressure and Im sure when he has sorted some things out and is more settled he will know how wonderful you were to him and be dying to see you.
Just dont push him or panic, even if when he leaves the company this does not mean your communication with him will be over .
good luck xxx
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