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writes:I really like this guy. We've actually never spoken to each other before, but he gets along with a guy friend of mine, so I know what kind of guy he is. These past weeks we've been exchanging glances in the hallways and during our P.E. period. I've made it pretty obvious...He'd leave out opportunities for me to go up and talk to him, but I get too nervous. I'm outrageously shy when it comes to relationships and opening up...especially around him. I'm afraid that I'm pushing him away...and I really don't want that. Please help, before I make things worst!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot, guys. I've been attending some of his concerts for band lately. I'm defineatly gonna make it more obvious that I like him...maybe I'll get lucky and he'll make the first move! :)
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 Try asking your mutual friend what kinds of things this guy's interested in. Does he belong to any clubs at school,
what are his interests outside of school.
Once you have this info, maybe you could join some of these clubs, or show up at any off school events he might attend. If you do this, you'll now have some "common ground" between the two of you. Something the two of you can casually talk about. You have the chance to get to know each other.
Even if you find that this guy's not everything you thought he was, joining these clubs and attending any off school activities will go a long way in helping you overcome your shyness.
Give it a try, after all, you've got nothing to loose, and everything to gain!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 I know that you think you've made it pretty obvious, but exchanging glances is FAR from obvious. Throw out more obvious signs that you like him, perhaps brush past him in the hallways and touch his arm as you do so. If there's plenty of space for you to get around him in the hallway but you get close and brush past him it'll get him thinking and there's a couple of ways you can play it from there.
You can apologize, then turn around to start walking, then turn back and introduce yourself casually.
You can just keep walking, but then turn and look back at him. (turning 180 degrees and looking back IS a glance that's much more obvious) then keep walking. (try not to walk into any lockers) ;)
If you chicken out then you can make it seem like it was accidental and just keep walking.
Other ideas... Just go up and ask if he has the time? That's a proven winner.
Check him out really obviously. Hold his gaze then look sorta quickly down his body to his toes and then back up to his eyes again. It takes guts to do, but the beauty is that you can do it without anyone but him noticing... and he WILL notice that.
Just some ideas for you anyways.
Good-luck :)
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