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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i think im pregnant. but im not sure. im still young and im scared to tell anyone because my parents will kill me and i dont want anyone thinking anything bad. it was just once and it got carried away. it happend 2 3 weeks agoo.. and im supposed to be on my periods in these few days but im worried because it hasnt come yet. and my breast are itchy .. i dnt know if that means anything but i really am worried. if i am pregnant what do i do ? i dont want to go to any of my family or friends. and how would i get rid of it ? what else would be caused ?
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (2 December 2009):
 Take a pregnancy test...if it is negative, take another one in a couple of weeks to double-check. Periods can be irregular at your age for hormonal and stress reasons. If you are not pregnant, think about how stressed you are now and have the confidence to insist on contraception next time you have intercourse. If you are pregnant, start taking folic acid tablets right away (most chemists stock these) and tell someone. If you are in education, your school or college need to know to make arrangements for your education around the pregnancy. You need to see a GP who can refer you to a midwife and arrange an antenatal scan for 'dating' the pregnancy. If you want a termination you need to act quickly - your GP can advise on the procedure. If you want to keep the baby then your midwife can refer you to teen mother projects and sure-start initiatives operating in your area so you won't feel like the first teenager in the world having a baby! I advise telling your parents if you are pregnant - yes they will be disappointed as no parent wants to hear that from their young daughter but it is better to tell them sooner than later. Basically if you were mature enough to have sex, and get pregnant...you are now mature enough to face up to your responsibilities. Even if they totally over-reacted and asked you to leave, social services have a duty of care to you and your baby as you are under 18 years of age. There are lots of hostels and housing projects for young mothers who are not living with family. You would also be entitled to various benefits as a single parent and a welfare advisor at your local citizens advice bureau could do an assessment and help with any forms.
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reader, ffogalilly  +, writes (2 December 2009):
First, take a deep breath, then go out and by a pregnancy test. If it turns out to be positive, go to your parents right away and tell them what you want to do. Do not let anyone try to pressure, trick, or bully you into anything that you do not want to do. I was pregnant once, and chose to terminate, my Mom chose to stay out of it, but my Dad drove me to the clinic and took care of me afterwards. Your parents were once young too, everyone makes mistakes, you just need to learn from them.
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (2 December 2009):
 I'm so embarrassed... I meant to type "I'm not a girl" in my earlier response. Ha!Just wanted to mark the correction to make sense of the sentence :)
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (2 December 2009):
Ok, take a deep breath and relax, for starters. You are very frantic right now, and understandably so. Which, so you know, could be a contributing factor to a delayed period. Now, I'm not a guy, but this did happen to my ex: she was so stressed out that her period delayed by 3 weeks. It eventually came, but that's after the stress started to minimize and she relaxed.Of course, you are of legal age to buy a pregnancy test, are you not? Why not give that a try? They are pretty accurate and you can easily sneak the box and used test into the trash after your parents go to sleep as to avoid them finding out. Give that a try so that you can see if your freaking out is based on facts or just speculation of being pregnant.And remember to breathe and relax :)If you really are pregnant, people (including your parents) will help you through this all; trust in them and they will be more than supportive back.
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