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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:8 months ago I started chatting to a man on the internet. I am 23 he is 35.We have become good friends during that time and did admit our attraction to each other.At fisrt he would contact me almost every day, and then it slowly died down to a couple of times each week, we both have demanding jobs so we don't always get to stay in contact as often.I noticed now he only makes the effort to contact me maybe once a week or once every few weeks.When he is in contact he will always tell me he was busy with work...I recently had a friend tell me she noticed he had still been active on the dating site we first meet on. I looked in to his further and she was correct,almost every day he was on that site. He then cotacts me and says his sorry he has not been in contact been so busy with work and has not been online...yet I know he has. So I guess I am confused why he would feel the need to lie about it and why he even tells me why he has not been online in the first place...because I dont ask him.If he was not interested...then why would he keep contacting me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011): It sounds like he has cooled off and is talking to lots and lots of women, or at least someone who interests him more. Save your energy for someone who gives you more attention. And next time, feed him only a little bit at a time! ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): I think he likes you but just as a friend and enjoys chatting with you. Sometimes it can be nice to have online 'friends' to go to and chat about certain things that aren't as easy to talk about with friends irl
You could also ask him upfront what he thinks and how he feels
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): You are not dating, not seeing each other, and he's not your boyfriend after 8 months of chatting. Doesn't that tell you he's a waste of time and this wasn't going anywhere? He owes you nothing..not even an explanation. It's just some guy you chat with online.
When you start dating a guy and begin seeing him on a regular basis, then you can start wondering where you stand.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 honey he's playing you
using you to stroke his ego
he's interested in your attention as long as it's nothing serious....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 Define "interested". If after 8 months of Internet dillydallying, you are not dating, not an item, you are just chatting and shooting the breeze... well, obviously he is nowhere as interested as you'd like him to be.
Of course if he still gets in touch with you every now and then, he is still "interested "... vaguely. Not in a proactive way, not in any way that would involve any relevant amount of time, attention and effort.
It does not really take a lot of interest for a casual chat once a week or so. It's enough that the girl is moderately appealing, would make a decent plan B, or C,D etc.. in lack of better options, and that he has some time to kill.
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