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writes: my partner says im no good in the bedroom but my reasons are as follows:-my partner stays in the bedroom all the time, yeh he goes to work when he feels and also to the toilet and the fridge to get a beer. apart from that hes in the bedroom....my daughter thinks hes a permanent fixture in there. nomatter what i try he stays in there, i used to spend a lot of my time in there with him, but he just wants sex all the time.i have two children and i cant spend my time with his majesty in his private quarters and he wont spread himself around the house. i have gone off sex because thats all he thinks about. we used to be very active sexually but as he stays in the bedroom it seems that s all our relationship is about, i love him but i am or should be more to him than s e x.... we dont go anywhere together and all he wants to do is watch films and blank me out. often he will show me attention and try to make me feel hes there for me but as soon as he gets s e x... hes retreated to his own company again. this is not good,if a man or a woman wants a good relationship they must equally make a effort. if he wants me to be a better in the bedroom dont you think he should treat me better and use the rest of our house and not just the bedroom. he often says he will but he just cant manage it. Reply to this Question
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reader, sleepysly +, writes (11 October 2006):
sleepysly is verified as being by the original poster of the question ok my partner read this message and has gone off on one,he read the reply from snowbird and i went on the phone to my friend, shortly after he presented me with a a4 size note, it reads..................................................no matter what you say,nomatter how many god damn support you will get on the internet from those moreons with nothing better to do,talking about their problems instead of solving them. he went on to say that i piss him off, that lately everything i do pisses him off, the fact that im on the phone to my friend pisses him off,he calls my friend that i have known since i was seven a bitch and says i talk to her to piss him off. he says he wakes up every morning and asks himself what hes doing here,all i can say is i am gutted, i moved him into my house thinking he loved me.......obviously i was wrong.... im gutted. he says that i want us to split then i should continue with the advice and talking to my friend. im gutted,and he says hes had enough,
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (11 October 2006):
 This is not a relationship - he is being unbelievably selfish! Who does he think he is, lying there, summoning you for sex - and then he has the temerity to say YOU are no good in bed!?!
What possible plus is there for you - or your children - in this situation?
What a role model they have got..what are they learning from all this..that this is how life is, all they have to look forward to??
I suggest you take a few days out to take the children off somewhere - even to a relative's for a week or so - to teach him what a cooker, washer, etc - is for...if this teaches him no lessons, then I would suggest that you get counselling to find out what his problem is, and failing that - ship out! There is no future if he is to carry on using you in this way, it is not normal, and you, my dear, need, and deserve better than this..and so do your children!
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reader, sleepysly +, writes (11 October 2006):
sleepysly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionafter reading my message to your guys my partner says he stays in the bedroom cause of me,he says that he stays there cause we argue ,i dont except that as we argue about him being in there.i think hes comfortable with the life hes living, for me though its like having a lodger in my house instead of a lover, and thats the problems when it comes to sex i cant imagin sleeping with my lodger if i had one,
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (8 October 2006):
 Write what you just said down and send it to him. That'll definitely explain things and possibly open his eyes
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