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writes:So I dated a guy for a 3 months and everything was amazing. He introduced me to his parents, friends... and then he started getting distant so I asked him waht was going on... He said he likes being with me, but he didn't think he could give me anything serious right now and if it turns out I was looking for that he didn't want to hurt me. So i told him I dont know what I want but I want things consistent and this isnt working so we ended things at the end of February. He has never had a serious girlfriend and he is 26.We didn't talk for a month and last week I messaged him to see if I could come by his work, because I needed my tires changed.He said of course and I went by his office and everything was cool. We talked, hung out and caught up and he was looking at me the same way he looked at me when we were dating. It was hard for me to even look him in the eye.We said goodbye and now I dont know if I should contact him again to try to start things up again. I'm hesitant, bc I don't want to get hurt and what's the point? If he wanted me he would initiate it right or is he just scared? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 April 2011):
 Scared of what ? Are you armed and dangerous ?
OP, you broke up 6 weeks ago because he could not give you a serious , consistent relationship. It's very unlikely that he has changed his mind in 6 weeks, and , if he had, he would have told you.
If you rekindle your relationship, pretty soon you'll have to break up again, because what pulled you apart has not changed, it's still there. So reconnecting would just mean more frustration, and waste of time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): OP, if a guy wants to get in touch with you, he would. We always try and rationalize that maybe he's scared/apprehensive/lost our number/busy/out of town/has a family emergency...and a million other excuses. The truth which we dont want to face is that he doesnt call/contact because he doesnt want to call. He was probably just being polite and not letting any awkwardness creep in.He was nice to you when you met him and you had fun hanging out. If he felt the same way and wanted to contact you, he would have. I think you should move on because you would just end up getting hurt again if you have any expectations out of him.
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