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writes:I'm 15 years old, and I like this guy who just turned 17. He lives in my moms town, 20 minutes away. We both liked each other for almost 3 years, and just recently he told me he loved me, which considering he didn't even tell me that when we dated awhile back I am shocked, but happy because I really do love him too. I want commitment though, but he won't because he says 20 minutes is too long to drive every other weekend so he doesn't want a relationship until I get my license. (3 months) if he loved me would all this really matter? What's really going on? Reply to this Question
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (29 January 2011):
 First of all, you weren't completely honest with this situation when you posted. You were complaining about him not driving 20 minutes to see you, but you had a different guy in your life. Why would he put effort into something that may never be?
Secondly, you have already shown him that you are willing to jump from guy to guy by leaving the previous one and now wanting to be with him. That is a BIG deciding factor in what he will want from you. You are very young and if you seem willing to jump from guy to guy, he may assume you'd be willing to have sex with him without being in a relationship with him. That may be all he's after now. He says he doesn't want a relationship yet, he wants to take things slow. Well,I call bullshit on that one. I think he will try to get what he wants (sex) out of you and then "goodbye, see you later".
Just be careful with him if you decide to keep with this "relationship". At your age, reputation is a big thing and if he thinks he has you pegged for an easy girl, he'll only want sex. Good luck with whatever you decide.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 Seriously, don't go for this guy, his excuse is lazy and pathetic!
Petrol is more than twice as expensive in the UK than in the USA and my OH once drove 2 hours to see me for an hour. And we both have to travel an hour each way to get to work, most adults do.
I think you will regret getting into any kind of relationship with him.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 January 2011):
 So you had another guy you were talking to trying to get rid of, he had other girls he was texting but yet he doesn't want a relationship just yet. If he does, he wants to take it slow. Well in order to make a relationship work, that requires effort from both parts. That requires taking a meager 20 minute drive, which he doesn't want to do, to see you.
We've already told you this guy isn't worth a damn, but ultimately you make your own decision. I still stick by what I say.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (23 January 2011):
 Nice, he was texting other girls while you were together.
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reader, tierani417 +, writes (23 January 2011):
tierani417 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ok so good news, kind of :)
Before the other day was when he was acting so weird about driving for me, well he was also acting kind of distant. Well I think its because I had another guy I was trying to get rid of, but didn't have the strength to. Well I did, and him and I hung last night. He acted totally different. He was way closer to me and seems like he's making more of an effort, since there's no other guys in my life he was texting other girls while we were together and I just think he's committing more. I know its kind of confusing, but he seems like he's trying more. He still doesn't want a relationship YET, but says he does, he just doesn't want to rush into things. So do you guys think maybe he does really care??
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reader, ilikedumplings  +, writes (20 January 2011):
That's complete garbage. I've been with my girlfriend for 9 months, and it takes me about 20-30 minutes to get to her place, but I still do that at least 2-4 times a week.
Ditch this guy, he's not worth it.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (20 January 2011):
 20 minutes? Oooh man, ditch this guy. That is seriously NOTHING. Geez, I drive two hours every other weekend to go see my girlfriends in my hometown. And THAT doesn't even seem like a big deal. He must not be that invested in you, and you deserve much better than this!
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (20 January 2011):
Move on from him, he doesn't like enough for a 20 minute drive and that spells heartbreak for you. If someone really loved another person, 20 minutes wouldn't be a long drive.
Honestly, he probably has other "priorities" on the weekends that keep him from you. What they are, innocent or not, is obviously more important than you.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 January 2011):
I'm going to have to agree that he's just not that into you. I drive 20 minutes each way to work every day. I wouldn't think twice about driving that to see a girl I really liked. Sorry OP.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (20 January 2011):
20 minutes isn't far, he's too lazy to drive to see you.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (20 January 2011):
 If he loved you, he'd bloody drive! Guy who liked me acted like a taxi for me (of course I didn't allow him to do this often, just if we were going to the same place. But the offers were sweet)
Na sounds like a lost cause, he wants you to waste your petrol!
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reader, tierani417 +, writes (19 January 2011):
tierani417 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe says its too far and gas is expensive but I offered to help pay? And itd only be every other weekend?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (19 January 2011):
You're exactly right sweetie, 20 minutes is nothing if he loves you! Actually 20 minutes is really not a drive.
My husband drove 2 hours to see me every weekend when we were dating. If he want and loves you then he needs to be coming to you, not making you do all the driving. In fact when you get your license, you guys can split up the driving to see one another to make it fair.
Guys will go the distance to see the girls they love. Remember that.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 January 2011):
Hmm, he wants a girlfriend without the work. Sounds like a great catch! Does he work? Gas is expensive, that could be an influencing factor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): Why does he want to wait until you get your license? Does he want you to do all the driving?
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