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writes:please help me understand this if a guy likes a girl why would he avoid touching her.? there is one of my male friend he talks to me stares me does everything that makes me and my friends feel he likes me but he avoids to touch me he does touches his other female friends but in my case he will prefer using his pen to poke me rather than finger if he has to stand with me he did keep alot of distance if we are quite close he starts shaking he cannot stand stable at same time he cannot see other guys touching me I see rage in his eyes when any guy touches me so does he like me if yes then y does he maintain distance please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2014): He may really like you; but feel it is being respectful not to put his hands on you. This is only my speculation.
You really should ask your parents in case this may be a cultural taboo you are unfamiliar with, related to economic-class; or related to his religion. You should know from them how you should react to it.
It may be a good idea to make sure this is not something unflattering. In any case, ask him not to poke you with objects; because you find that a bit rude and offensive.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (9 April 2014):
 Well, it could be that he is so painfully shy around you he perspires so freely that he is afraid of touching you with sweaty clammy hands. That's one option. Another possibility is that he's a bit odd and makes faces a lot and just basically acts weird because that's the way he is.
If you like him and want him to date you (is that something that you can do?) then tell one of his friends that you like him. Or, as you are 18-21 years of age and are now considered an adult, you could be brave yourself and tell him you like him?
Now, this is all based on the norms in the US. I have never been to India and I know it's a vast country with many regions and a varied culture and dating and boyfriend/girlfriend kind of stuff is different. So maybe you could explain if you two are of different castes (if that matters here) or if you are able to choose and date freely or if that is frowned on?
If you like him and want him to show that he likes you, make it easy for him to see that you would welcome his attention to you. Smile, make eye contact, ask him why he is poking you with his pen.
Why is he even poking you with a finger or a pen? That to me sounds like something that happens between much younger people. How old is he? How old are you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2014): Maybe the reason he doesn't touch you is because he knows he likes you and is worried whether you do or do not like him. Guys react differently depending on themselves. Maybe he doesn't want to confuse you. Maybe he feels he can't just simply touch you as he does his other friends as it might mean something more to him.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (9 April 2014):
 He probably does like you. But perhaps he is very shy and nervous about it. He might not touch you in anyway because he is so shy or may feel like hes going to scare you off or come across as innapropriate. Its very often for a guy who has feelings for someone to come across awkward or nervous, and by the sounds of it I reckon that is the case here. I think you should try and talk to him about it, maybe you could touch him for a change? You could just ask him straight up about whether he likes you or not but he could deny it due to his nerves. I think maybe if you start acting a bit more comfortably around him he might tell you how he feels for you, and like I said you could always touch him in a friendly way or try and give him a friendly hug and see how he reacts. Good Luck.
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reader, MSA +, writes (9 April 2014):
 Maybe he's waiting for you to reach out to touch him first ^_*
Sometimes touching you or not touching you is not a definite sign of whether he likes you or not.
Try talking to him more and getting to know him more. I bet once he feels more comfortable he will show it ^_^
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