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writes: Recently I have been getting close to a good friend of mine. We've been friends for about a year now, and recently it's developed into something more. We have all the same friends and see each other at the same night clubs every week. We kiss and cuddle, he tells me how beautiful i am. He is lovely to me. I want to take things slow but recently it's becoming to feel more and more like friends with benefits?I know he really likes me, he's told me himself and everyone keeps telling me he does. He's asked me out on a date but everytime we set a date and time, something goes wrong, we both have work commitments, he had to lend his friend money for rent etc etc. Now it's been 2 weeks since we last had to cancel our date, and nothing mores been said about it. No rescheduling, no nothing. I see and talk to him everyday, why hasn't he rescheduled? I asked him to come over last week but he wasn't feeling well, I just dunno what's going on anymore. I know he's still into me, when i see him he kisses and cuddles me and holds my hand. =S I know he has alot on his plate right now ( i wont go into details) but surely if he was that serious about me he'd make more of an effort to see me right?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 If he wanted to date you, yeh he would.
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reader, Empressjai  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Absolutely!!!! if he was serious and into you, he would make more of an effort to be with you, spend time with you, get to know you more intimately, find out what makes your mind tick, what your goals or dreams are. But instead he keeps his distance and kisses and cuddles you. So how do you figure that he's into you? Kisses and cuddles mean nothing you can do that with anyone. He doesn't reschedule because you are not that special for him to drop what he's doing and come over.
This guy is not into you that much regardless of all his issues. He doesn't see you as girlfriend material. Friends with benefits is just another name for a casual connection. Move on and find someone who gives a damn.
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