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writes:Thanks anyone for taking the time to read this/respond. I am kind of confused in situation with a new guy I hooked up with recently. I have kind of known him for about a year because I go to the place where he works all the time, and we talked casually, but I was in a relationship so it was never really sexual or romantic at all. Well, in the past couple of weeks we were talking one night at his work and he asked for my number so we hung out a couple of times and slept together, and we saw each other a few times again at his work and he will stop and chat for a few minutes, but now when I text him or try to contact him he never responds! This has happened two different times in the past week when I called him. Maybe I am being too impatient, but I am frustrated that he is giving mixed signals. Do you think this guy is doing this on purpose? I know some guys play this whole game to get you to chase them, but I love that!! I feel like I have to get what I want, and so it's driving me crazy! And it's basically a sexual thing, I don't know much about him on a personal level, but we had great sex and I want to get some more!Then today when I was on myspace he had changed his status to "smitten" with a smiley face with heart eyes, and I'm confused because I think he is talking about someone else because it seems like if he really liked me, he would call me to hang out, right? And then, if he does like someone else so much why was he hooking up with me a week ago? I haven't ever seen him with any other girls either. What the heck is going on??
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reader, BadAsh6705 +, writes (10 February 2009):
BadAsh6705 is verified as being by the original poster of the question haha! my plan is already working...he called me again tonight. ;o)
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reader, BadAsh6705 +, writes (8 February 2009):
BadAsh6705 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, honestly I just enjoyed sleeping with him, so I don't care if he doesn't want a relationship. I just got out of one and I am not looking for that right now. After we hooked up I didn't call him for like 3 or 4 days and then I sent him a request on myspace which he accepted. Then a couple days later I sent him a message on there about hanging out sometime over the weekend, but he never said anything back! I'm definitely not going to be the one to initiate anything from this point...if he decides he wants to that's cool, and if not that's fine too. But to clear things up, I'm not chasing him. I told him straight that I wanted to sleep with him again, not fall in love! That's why it doesn't make sense to me, it seems like the perfect situation for any guy to me!
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reader, Susan Walsh +, writes (8 February 2009):
OK, I am going to give you some tough love here. He hooked up with you a week ago because he wanted to have sex. Obviously, he was physically attracted to you, but that doesn't mean he felt anything more. And it sounds like you're in it for the sex too. If he is putting Smitten on his profile, then clearly there is someone who he is crushing on. I agree that it it were you, he would be in touch (as an aside, go see He's Just Not That Into You, it's really good!). My advice is to move on, don't waste the pretty! I blog about hooking up at www.HookingUpSmart.com, check it out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): whoa.ok, well. do you have each other on myspace right?well. At this perspctive it could be TWO things.either he is doing the whole game thing or he ost interest and is moving on.the smitten thing is pointless and has nothing to do with this. maybe its a freind you know? guys do that too.stop texting. guys HATE being chased. all it does is it increases his ego giving him a great boost. but no guy wnats to hook up with a girl that is chasing him. it is proved. so. STOP CHASING. Do't text him, and if you go to his store again, act indifferent the first time, and then another time pin him agianst the wall or smothing, then the next act like he doesnt exist.. you know.. play his game. let him have a taste of his own medicine. take a day o two to answer his texts, dont pick up his first call.. EVER. and if he doesnt call again, ignore it. and wait for the next time he does.don't make it all too obvious though. hopefully, by the end he will be BEGGING for you.And this will requir a lot of your inner strength. you have to be strong and not be seduced by temptation! hope it helps, hope it works.best of luck!(keep us updated!)
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