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writes:I think that my boyfriend is falling for me, because he freaked out and began pulling away. I tried to talk to him, but he didn't want to talk about it. Now I don't know what to do. Should I just give him time and ignore him, and if I give him space how long should I wait? If a guy is scared of commitment and falling in love, how long does it take for them to snap out of it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): He may also be thinking about his future, anon. He may want to do something with his life that will take some time. He may be afraid of a commitment right now because he worries if you will be willing to wait until he gets the training or education to do what he wants to do. Talk with him about his plans. If you really care, you will encourage him to do what he feels he needs to. Tell him you will wait till he is ready. But, you must also think and be sure you mean what you say.
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reader, rcn +, writes (19 July 2008):
 People are generally afraid of falling in love because of being hurt. I hear so many people who associate "love" with "pain".
This is usually a learned trait. Who hurt him? Did he loose someone he loved? (this could include friend or family as well) He needs to find out what's causing the mental block which is not allowing his feelings to progress, then tackle that issue.
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (19 July 2008):
 The guy probably freaked because he realised how deep his feelings are for you, and that scared him. Wouldn't you freak out if you were suddenly scared of your own feelings? Just give him time, don't ingnore him completely, but don't obsess about it. Be relaxed and he'll feel happy and calm around you. Also, don't pressure him into commitment. The more you try to make him stay, the more he'll probably want to leave. Good luck with this and future problems.
Bendy xx
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