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writes:If a guy has sex with a girl does that usually means he loves her? Also If he didn't love her how can guys have sex with a girl without having deep feelings for them? Thank you just curious. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 May 2011):
 NOPE
what is the old saysing:
women need a REASON to have sex men just need a place...
just because a guy has sex with you even if he's tender, romantic and loving does not mean he loves you.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 no he can do it with anyone, and so can women. some men will lie that they love a girl just so that she will agree to sex with them. a girl that believes sex means love is this sort of man's perfect date. don't be fooled. 'i love you' is VERY easy to say so always judge a man by his behaviour to you and his actions rather than what he says
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 May 2011):
 No, sex doesn't always equate love.
Sometimes it's jsut lust,boredom, curiosity, dare.. you name it...
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (4 May 2011):
 Hello,
I would say no because people do one night stands, go to escorts etc.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (4 May 2011):
 The answer is: Of course NOT! But I do understand your consternation about it, because throughout my years (now 60-something), my personal feeling toward any woman who shared pleasures with me was, and remains, a very fond one.
At the very least, I like them (still do after years), but readily admit that it was not always "love." Sometimes it did develop into some degree of love in continuing relationships (including three marriages), but it usually starts more as fondness along with raw attraction and lust.
That's me, but I've known and known of other guys whose relationships with women are only sexual self-satisfaction, the worst of which includes those who rape. Many are perhaps just narcissium. Perhaps there is a large percentage for which conquering women sexually is more of a game, or simply selfish gratification.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 No. Unfortunately there is no necessary connection between a guy having sex and being in love.
If you want to test to see whether or not he loves you, then take him shopping for 3 hours whilst you try on 27 different pairs of jeans and then decide that you don't need any of them. If he is still around at the end of the afternoon then he probably has feelings for you.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (4 May 2011):
A guy can have sex with a girl for many reasons, love is just one reason. Some other reasons include strong sexual drives (lust), physical stimulation and pleasure (gratification), a need for intimacy and closeness, getting married (marital obligation), wanting to have a baby (procreation), getting pressured into having sex by friends (peer pressure), wanting to lose his virginity (societal pressure), wanting to assert his power over women (abuse, insecurity), wanting to be accepted by others (insecurity), having sex whilst under the influence of drugs or alcohol (diminished control and awareness), sexual curiosity, a way of feeling better when going through grief or sadness, escapism, stress relief, and other reasons.
Part of learning about love, sex, marriage and relationships is that one thing, such as having sex, doesn't necessarily mean another thing, such as the two people being in love. Sexual drives and attraction forces are strong enough for people to have sex without having strong feelings of love or emotional attachment to one another.
We are highly complex, and having sex is never usually for just one reason. Our feelings about sex are also influenced by a variety of sources, and have both a positive and a negative influence on us and our thoughts and feelings about sex. Life offers us an opportunity to explore sex as one of it's aspects, I hope you enjoy finding your own way.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): 1st question: No, only if youre extremey lucky will he love a girl he sleeps with. Some men have can have sex without deep feelings because they are selfish and are just looking for their own pleasure and they will by ANY means do anything or say anything to accomplish getting a woman into bed with them if that is what theyre looking for.
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reader, Aliceinunderland +, writes (4 May 2011):
 Guys I know whom I've asked on this matter have all said to me: "Any Hoe's a go"
So I guess the fact that men generally have higher libido's than women, they opt for sex with the girls who are "up for it".
I'm not saying this is always the case, but unless you're in a relationship with the guy, then you can't tell if he loves you.
Sex is an act. Love is a feeling, you can separate the two, but unless the feeling is involved in the act, then it's just sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): No.
Also, same with a girl having sex with a guy.
For some, it is just sex, and no more emotional involvement than watching a movie together.
For some of us, that's not the way it is....but people have sex for all sorts of reasons.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 No. Guys don't need to have feelings for girls at all to have sex with them. They just want to get their rocks off.
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